It took some work, and research, but I found out I could go to the probate filling department at Superior court in Downtown Los Angeles to file my objections to my Mothers conservator.
Quick recap: My mother was conserved by a crook through the probate court and I was able to get him temporarily removed by an honorable judge (literally honorable) and when I went to the mediation, the crook would only consider stepping down if he could hand pick the person to take his place. Ah… is that not a conflict of interest? Or odd? Yes. But when you are in a room full of lawyers and judges and more lawyers and conservators… you might not know what to do. Well, I was worn down and my sister was totally over it, and said she’s ready to sign anything to rid herself from this criminal behavior and get on with her life. Ok, I get it but, I’m not feeling so hot on all this and I’ve been fighting this upward battle more or less on my own so hold on a sec.
I thought to myself, what have you done this past year to try and get him out of the family. Not much. I’m not throwing hate but, I was the one to show up to court on multiple occasions by myself. I was the one to ride up on my Vespa and park illegally on the sidewalk to attain reports from the courthouse to find a way to rectify the situation. I was the one to put myself and my reputation on line and took character defamation bullets from his team. So, when it comes down to it, if you have to fight probate conservatorship situations, and people are “over it,” and haven’t really been “into it” then take yourself back home, and I’ll deal with it.
Which is what I’m doing.
I walked to the courthouse this morning and put in my earplugs and Metallica, “Nothing Else Matters” came on my feed. I took it as a sign. If I made a mistake during the mediation by being pressured to go along with the room of people trying to find a common ground, and it’s not common when you’re outnumbered, then you gotta find another angle. So, I contacted the probate office and discovered I can file an objection to the situation.
I already mailed the Judge my reasons for keeping on the current conservator and expected it to be sent back, which it was but that wasn’t going to stop me. It happened to me in the past when I wrote another judge that put this criminal in place, and the letter was sent back to me with the envelop and a note telling me to get a lawyer. This time I walked into the courthouse again and filled the necessary protocol paperwork, along with my original letter, and can only hope it gets to the judge.
So it has been almost two years, and there is one more court hearing set for the end of January. The moral of the story is, fighting probate conservatorship is a strong incline, but, most people give up. Most people don’t know what to do or how to deal but, if you put that all aside and stick to your guns, you can make moves one step at a time and your chances of success are better than doing nothing at all. So, I was able to temporarily remove a longtime criminal and now have to go back and beg the judge to keep the conservator that he appointed to the court in the first place on board.
It’s complicated but, I’ve learned that if your instincts are not clear but you feel something off, and you’re stuck in a room or courthouse with judges and lawyers, your gut is truly all you have. If I were to listen to my instincts during that mediation, things might have been different. But, there’s still time to right my wrong.
We shall see, and I shall pray.