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7 Reasons We Shame Women

“Stop the bombing,” is a quote taken from Brandon Walsh on 90210 back in the 90’s, and it was the first thing that came to my mind when I heard about Kiera Knightly shaming Kate Middleton for “unrealistic appearances following the birth of Princess Charlotte” (Inquisitr).

If you recall after she had birth, she presented the baby to the world and probably royal protocol is to be picture perfect but, that doesn’t make it okay to shame her. Some people bounce back fast after giving birth, and some people have a whole glam squad ready to make magic happen so why do people find a need to hate?

Then recently Kim Kardashian posts a provocative bikini pic on instagram and women are saying it’s all a publicity stunt to somehow sway the controversy behind Kanye West’s recent outrage on SNL.

In both cases, social media has prompted cyber hating and shaming on women. Why are we shaming women, and how does social media play a key role in all this madness?

#1. We are shaming women cause it’s easy to do with social media

#2. We are shaming women cause it’s almost like a sorority bullying house gone wild

#3. We are shaming women cause we not happy with ourselves

#4. We are shaming women cause it’s socially acceptable

#5. We are shaming women cause it’s a free country and we can post whatever we want

#6. We are shaming women cause women seemed to be shammed more so often than usual given the current political climate.

#7. We are shaming women cause it’s a bandwagon situation where people can post their thoughts making it easy for others to tag along with their shaming.

Shame on anyone that fits into any of the top 7 categories seems to run ramped.  As a woman, it’s hard to accept that other women shame their fellow gender, but, what is the solution?

Are we supposed to stop all contact with social media? No, we all know that is never going to happen, but, we have to be aware of what you read, what you write and what you post. Before you lash out on a fellow lady ask yourself why are you doing it? Do you fall into one of the above 7 categories?

I hope not. I’ll be honest, I hate pictures. I’ve never taken a selfie in my entire life. I avoid cameras at all cost and always have for the majority of my life and, I know it stems from something deeper going on inside.  It has psychological roots in my childhood.  As a middle child, did I grow up feeling ignored or invisible? Possibly.

Next time you respond on social media to a post that opens the door to shame someone, take a step back. You might learn more about your own issues versus projecting them onto others. Think of it as an opportunity to learn more about yourself.



7 Reasons We Shame Women

Erica Loberg

Erica Loberg was born and raised in Los Angeles, CA. She attended Columbia University in New York and graduated with a BA in English. She is a published poet and author of Inside the Insane, Screaming at the Void, What Men Should Know About Women, What Women Should Know About Men, Diamonds From The Rough , Undressed, and I'm Not Playing.

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Loberg, E. (2018). 7 Reasons We Shame Women. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 6, 2020, from


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