“You know the thing about chaos, it’s fear.”
(The Joker in Batman’s Dark Knight.)
I was watching Dark Knight on Netflix, and found myself writing down quotes straight out of the Joker’s mouth. The above quote is one of them which got me thinking about how to manage chaos and fear.
You can be at a job, and someone can be introduced into the office environment that causes chaos. Indefinitely that chaos will produce fear. People will walk on egg shells, or lie to get by. So, if everyone is subjected to chaos, and everyone knows the feelings of fear, it’s easy to get caught up in it. Knowing that I make a point to be aware of my surroundings, and the choices that I make. When I see fear around me, it builds me up. It makes me want to help others and try and do the right thing. If you can witness chaos, and you know fear will be a result, you are one step ahead if you choose to not allow fear to get the best of you.
Here’s a prime example. In my family life, there is chaos. Decisions have been made based on fear as a result of chaos. Quick recap, my father died unexpectedly which left the family in a state of chaos. As a result, my mother was conserved by a crook that has caused havoc on my family. He is like the Joker. He preys on vulnerable women, bleeds estates, and ruins lives. So, knowing that chaos reeks fear, I have to knowingly separate myself from the madness, and not let fear stop me from doing what’s right. I’ve been to court multiple times to try and get him removed but, once a conservatorship is in probate it’s merely impossible. But, that doesn’t deter me. I makes me stronger. And, some little guy like me is the last one he will see coming. Like the Joker, he is a sociopath that has taught me how to be strong cause I refuse to have fear keep me down despite the chaos.
There is a scene in Dark Knight where Batman races down a road ready to run over the Joker. Yet, he can’t do it. It’s not in his moral fiber to kill despite all the corruption and chaos fueled by this Villain. The Joker just stands there, immovable, and wants Batman to run him down. That scene of Batman deciding to drive around the Joker was a manifestation of another quote from the Joker that he said when he discussed his relationship to Batman. He describes it as,”An unstoppable force, meets an immovable object.” Batman is the unstoppable force, and the Joker is an immovable object. This is what my relationship with my mom’s conservator has become. I won’t be stopped in my efforts to get him removed, and he won’t budge. I’ve been to court half a dozen times, and it’s just a terrible stand off.
When I met with my therapist to discuss how to deal with such a dynamic he said you have to me a moving target. It all sounds complicated, which it is, but when you realize you are dealing with someone that introduces chaos into a situation, you have to know that chaos is immovable, but you can try to have courage like Batman to navigate around it. Chaos can be an immovable object but you can use your strength to try and dodge it. You have to recognize that chaos is not a choice, but your response can be measured. You can separate yourself from the flock, and replace any fear with strength knowing you can do whatever you can to help the situation. Whether it’s chaos brought forth in a work environment, or havoc in a family situation, be aware. Be smarter than the perpetrator that introduces chaos in an effort to manipulate a situation.
Be like Batman.