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8 Rules to Help Alleviate Being Lonely

“Young people are far more likely than senior citizens to report being lonely and in poor health, a surprising survey of 20,000 Americans released Tuesday shows.” (USA Today.) So, according to a study put out by Cigna, Millennials and Generation X’ers are really lonely.

And I am one of them.

I remember back in college, I had a professor that thought the internet was going to end up contributing to social isolation, and she was right. We think that we are more connected through the internet, or social media platforms but, we’re not, and I believe it. Imagine waking up, going online to Amazon and buying a book. Convenient, right? Troubling, maybe. Imagine waking up and walking outdoors, down the street to your local book store, and buying a book. You might run into a neighbor and say hello. You might have a few words with the person behind the register while purchasing your book. At the very least, you are among people.

It’s 2018. There are no book stores. There are people walking around with headphones on blocking out society. I am one of those people too, and it’s not helping. If I’m not going to make a conservative effort to be social at the very least I should ditch my headphones before exiting my place. But what else can I do. I’m not down to try internet dating. I’m not down with going out and meeting people the old fashion way, so, where does that leave me. Isolated and alone.

But it is now time to make some changes. There are going to have to be some new rules. Here we go:

  • Rule #1. No more binge watching the Housewives, or whatever comes up as a new release in my Hulu feed. I can allow myself one episode a day, for now. That seems reasonable.
  • Rule #2. Next time I go to text someone, I will call them. How hard is that. I can do that.
  • Rule #3. Re-enter therapy. That is a rough one cause I’ve been off the therapy wagon for quite some time but, enough is enough. It’s time.
  • Rule #4. Take up a class at the gym. You are paying good money to belong to a gym with free classes so what are you waiting for.
  • Rule #5.  Drive to a friends house. Growing up, I used to do that all the time. My neighbors were my friends, so I would stop by whenever I felt like it. It’s not rude if your friend knows how you are so just do it.
  • Rule #6. Listen to music in the morning while getting ready. I don’t need to have the TV on in the background to create white noise nor do I need dead silence. Try a tune on your ITunes for a change.
  • Rule #7. Schedule a trip out of dodge. I live in LA. Everyone knows I don’t leave downtown and LA is a large place. I don’t necessarily have to jump on a plane and fly across the country so make it easy and go North to Santa Barbara or something. That’s not too far and a new scene is needed.
  • Rule #8. Chuck the phone. Do I need to check my phone multiple times a day? Not really. Take a break and turn it off and if that causes you anxiety you have a problem that you can discuss with your therapist you plan on seeing this week.

Ok, I think I can handle at least one of these rules so will start there.  You have to start somewhere cause I have thought about what it would be like to die alone, and if elderly people are less lonely then Millennials or Generation X’ers, that is SCARY.


8 Rules to Help Alleviate Being Lonely

Erica Loberg

Erica Loberg was born and raised in Los Angeles, CA. She attended Columbia University in New York and graduated with a BA in English. She is a published poet and author of Inside the Insane, Screaming at the Void, What Men Should Know About Women, What Women Should Know About Men, Diamonds From The Rough , Undressed, and I'm Not Playing.

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Loberg, E. (2018). 8 Rules to Help Alleviate Being Lonely. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 15, 2020, from


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