Creating, maintaining, and enforcing boundaries can be a struggle for a lot of people. I’ve suffered from not being able to have boundaries with people, and it wasn’t until recently that I realize that despite how hard it is for me, the alternative to not creating boundaries is way worse then the hardships I experience trying to create them.
Here are five emotions that can occur when you lack the ability to create boundaries for yourself:
- Anxiety – Why do I allow anxiety to keep me from setting limits?
- Agitation – Why do I feel agitated when you are the one causing the stress?
- Guilt – Why do I feel guilty when I haven’t done anything wrong?
- Shame – Why do I feel bad when you are the one pushing my limits?
- Insomnia – Why do I allow it to get so bad that I can’t even get proper sleep?
These are just a handful of emotions I face when I am caught in a situation that requires me to impose boundaries, and I am not able to do it. However, when I write these boundary buzz words it helps me enforce boundaries when usually I’ll just deal with the emotions.
Next time you experience one or more of these emotions, as a result of not enforcing boundaries for yourself, ask yourself these questions. They might help you start creating boundaries that are long over due, and that you deserve.