Simply put: It all comes down to confidence.
I’ve never purchased a self help book, or how to this, or whatever that, but I was watching Larry King Live yesterday, and caught an interview with Brendon Burchard on his new book ‘High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way.” I’m in a rut, and I can possibly learn from him despite my anti-self help life.
So Burchard boiled it down to 6 of the following habits:
- Seek clarity – High performers spend time planning their days
- I used to make a list of what I wanted to accomplish for the day, and I would check off tasks with a fat marker, and it was great. It felt good and worked wonders. I haven’t done that in months, and wonder how much something that simple has held me back.
- Generate energy – High performers are more likely to exercise 3 to 5 times a week
- I used to exercise religiously but, not so much anymore. Time to get my workout on cause I feel fat and it sucks. And without energy, you can forget about the rest of this list. Sound body, sound mind!
- Raise necessity – High performers raise the importance of their work
- I do think about the importance of my work, but, I also know a lot of what I put out there people don’t get, or agree with, or just ignore. So what, that shouldn’t stop me from surging full speed ahead. It never stopped me in the past so let’s go!
- Increase productivity – High performers tend to focus
- I tend to spend more time thinking about productivity, then actually engaging in it. Do it, do it, do it should be my new mantra.
- Develop influence – Increase people skills and build relationships
- I am a people person (except when I isolate due to bouts of depression but) and know from experience building strategic relationships to get where I want to go is a must yet, I put it on the backburner or some reason. No mas. You may think you can do it alone but, you can’t.
- Demonstrate courage – High performers speak up not just for themselves but for others
- I got that one covered, to a fault. Any courageous move I make always gets me in trouble but I can’t help myself.
Now here is something important. Burchard noted that confidence is the bedrock to obtaining all these habits, and lately, (due to multiple factors in my life,) my confidence has been shaken. Ironically, you would think you need confidence to have courage, but that’s not true. At least not for me. Often times people have called me courageous, and I quite honestly don’t know what they are talking about cause my courageous actions are just who I am. So that correlation confuses me but, if confidence is the key to the gate of the six habits above then maybe conquering those six habits first will build back that much needed confidence. In other words, I am going to work backwards. I am going to do my best to work these six habits, and in doing so hope the confidence that I used to have will build back.
I started today. I wrote down the six habits and pinned them to my shirt. Just kidding, but I posted it on my wall. I can do this. One day at a time.