You can’t live in the moment if you’re always thinking about two words:
Whether it’s an accomplishment or a failure, if you’re a hard core non-mindfulness person, it’s more like what’s next, what’s next, what’s next… and when you are chronically always looking ahead there is no way you can enjoy the present, or even more importantly, learn about yourself.
When I get a book published I’m like, great, onto the next one. Completing a book is an achievement that I completely ignore, and have learned that without acknowledging that moment of success, the chances of it happening again are slim. If I can’t relish that moment, and learn what if feels like, why would I put myself through all the hard work necessary to write another book? I’ve learned that the moment I get that book in my hands for the first time, that I have a fleeting opportunity to take a deep breath and say awesome job. I’ve come to realize that if I give myself the chance to feel that moment, I am more likely to be motivated write another better one.
I’ll never forget the moment I found out my first book was going to get published. I was sitting in my loft when I got the news and waited. I waited for that feeling of achievement, gratitude, relief, but instead felt nothing. It was so bizarre and honestly disappointing cause I spent a lifetime waiting for that moment and thought, at the very least, I would jump up and down but no. I continued on with my day thinking ok, maybe it just hasn’t hit me yet. That was six years ago. Recently I had two books published back to back, and was still in that same non-mindful place and focusing on the next one.
That’s just one tiny example, but, it works across the board for understanding the power of being present. I am far from being a mindful person, and obviously am a product of someone that practices non-mindfulness but, simply knowing that if I don’t get all caught up in what’s next, the chances of whatever comes next will be bigger, better, and hopefully more rewarding.