This has been an ongoing struggle with me, and I thought my proclivity to allow people to act a certain way was ok, if it was true, but, it’s not ok.
Looking back, I think working in two psych wards for a few years, plus dealing with my own mental illness, it has given me a high tolerance for pain, or has made me more compassionate, or less judgmental towards people with issues. But, when it starts to harm me and make me seem to be “off” I have to rethink my response to situations that are not ok, yet I allow them; excuse them.
So where do you draw the line of inexcusable behavior when it may be rooted in some truth?
Here is the line: Just because someone says something true doesn’t make it ok.
Recently, I received an email from an ex that was angry, and he said some rude things which had some truth to them. Usually I would excuse it cause well, there’s some truth to it, and it’s not his fault he’s hurt and angry so I would let it go.
No. It doesn’t work that way. Mean is mean. Nice is nice. And truth is arbitrary as it is subjective to begin with anyway.