Bullies are scaredy cats, which seems like a contradiction or the opposite of how they tend to operate but, after years of personal experiences of being bullied, I’ve finally come to the conclusion that they are insecure, and the only way to fight a bully is stick to your confidence.

But how do you do that? And what does that mean when a bully tries to knock you down and hinder your confidence?

  1. Rule Number One: Do NOT take the high road. You might think being the bigger person and not responding to a bully is being the bigger person but it’s not.  You are better off expressing yourself to his or her face.
  2. Rule Number Two: Know your rights. Often times we feel trapped or alone in a bullying situation when there are Human Resources to contact in the workplace, or a higher authority to contact depending on the situation.
  3. Rule Number Three: Be angry, get mad, don’t swallow your pride. I find that trying to squash your feelings will only exacerbate the situation so, cry if you need to, express your authentic self that is rooted in self-confidence.
  4. Rule Number Four: Talk to yourself in the mirror in the morning. When you are faced with knowing you are entering a bullying environment prepare yourself. Remind yourself that you are the boss of you, and verbalize it out loud.

Stuart Smalley from Saturday Night Live is a perfect example of this when he would look in the mirror and say to himself, “I am good enough, I am smart enough, and Doggone it people like me!”

Try that next time you are facing a day of potential bullying. You might be surprised how it will boost your confidence and that is your best weapon when facing an insecure scardey cat!