Who Really Has The Eating Disorder?
Are you a food pusher?
Sometimes in a social environment, when people are indulging in cake or something considered “bad” you may find people not just offering a piece, but almost harassing someone (especially if they are skinny) to eat it.
A food pusher conversation can go something like this:
“Here, have some.” Cake is shoved in their face.
“No thanks.” Hand goes up.
“Come on, try it.” More shoving in the face.
“No, I’m good.” Hands still up and waves side the side to signify no.
“It’s just one piece.”
Oh my gosh, please stop being a food pusher. But, somehow I become the one with the eating issue?! What?
It took me awhile to realize that the person that pushes the food onto someone is the one with the problem. I’ve come to realize there are three types of people that push food on someone. A food pusher might think the following:
- I feel ashamed eating alone. Somehow if you have a partner in crime to share the experience it’s not that bad.
- You eat it so I won’t eat it. If the food is off the table it’ll be gone and I won’t be tempted.
- You eat it cause I won’t and will win, I am strong. You eat it so now I can watch you get fat, and not me.
These are the three types of food pushers that I’ve witnessed. And, it’s the person on the pushing side that needs to take a look at themselves, and ask themselves why they push food onto people. And, most of the time, that person is either overweight, or too thin.
When this happens, there is an underlying psychological issue going on, and when it comes to food, a sign of a healthy person will offer the cake, get a no, and not care, cause they don’t have an issue with food.
So, if you are a food pusher think about why this is the case. Having been someone that has been subjected to food pushers her whole life thankfully, I can come to realize that it’s not me with a problem. I only become a part of the problem when I feel the need to make excuses for myself. I might just not like cake, or I am full, or have a big dinner to save up for…. no, sadly, I find myself feeling awkward and desperate to get out of food pushing situations when I shouldn’t have to.
I’m not going to do it anymore. I’m going to start calling people out. We’ll see how THAT goes.
Loberg, E. (2017). Who Really Has The Eating Disorder?. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 22, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/manic-depression/2017/07/24/who-really-has-the-eating-disorder/