According to a Pew Research Center Study, more than a third of American millennials – which is considered 18 to 31-year-olds – are living at home with their parents. That is 21.6 million who have not left the nest.

This is a sensitive and controversial topic, so expect to be blasted but, there’s a complicated issue that a lot of parents face when it comes to their loved one staying at home.

“My child is depressed so has trouble looking for a job, or getting out of the house, or off the couch. I don’t know what to do cause I think he’s depressed but he won’t admit it, or address it and I don’t know what to do.”

It is a sad truth that there are parents in their 60’s that are working hard. Working long hours, two jobs, while their 20 something sits at home doing nothing. Or maybe they are retired, and enter a new phase in life when their loved one is stagnant.

And the parent starts to think is something wrong with my child? Is my child depressed? Is there something else going on here?

Like I said, it’s complicated.

When your loved one suffers from a mental illness, and refuses to get help, what do you do? Continue to financially support them? Let them do their thing and hope they snap out of it? It is truly a tough situation and my heart goes out to parents that are living with a child that exhibits mental issues, but refuses to get help, and weeks become months and they are still sitting on your couch.

You can’t, or I guess some can, just kick them out when they have no place to go, but are you supposed to enable them because you feel bad for their situation?

If you think your child is suffering form a mental illness. For example, if they pace at night, they rip cabinets off when they are mad or destroy property, they are scared of the TV cause someone is talking to them, or don’t shower, have poor eating habits, get defiant and mean when you dare to bring up any of this, you have a millennial in your house that might suffer from a mental illness.

It’s hard to tell the difference from a mentally ill millennial versus a millennial that finds twenty justifications to stay at home. Both need help and both need to face the facts.