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It’s Not Always Your Mother’s Fault

“Everything’s always the Mother’s fault.” My Mom said this to me recently and it is not the first time she has said something along those lines. It’s kinda a cliché to blame everything wrong in someone’s life on their Mom, which is unfortunate, but I have often wondered if she really felt that way.

When I gave it some thought I began to think maybe some of my Mom’s struggles in life are my fault. She had to raise a hypo manic child with no knowledge of my condition. Growing up knew I was a handful, so some guilt started to set in.

So this time when she said it I stopped to reply and said, “Maybe it’s my fault.” In other words, maybe raising a manic depressive child took a toll on my Mother, and I need to take some responsibility for how my behavior might have caused her turmoil, and hardships that she had to endure as a result in her life. Possibly, my behavior could have worn her down, and had a negative effect on her own mental health.

Then I stop and think why isn’t the Father ever to blame for how a child turns out? It doesn’t seem fair.

In a culture that has phrases like “It’s all my Mothers fault” I think we need to step back and think really? I can’t imagine what it would be like to raise a Bipolar child and the ramifications of the illness affecting a person’s life. Especially a Mother.

Let’s give Moms a break ok.

It’s Not Always Your Mother’s Fault

Erica Loberg

Erica Loberg was born and raised in Los Angeles, CA. She attended Columbia University in New York and graduated with a BA in English. She is a published poet and author of Inside the Insane, Screaming at the Void, What Men Should Know About Women, What Women Should Know About Men, Diamonds From The Rough , Undressed, and I'm Not Playing.

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Loberg, E. (2016). It’s Not Always Your Mother’s Fault. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 5, 2020, from


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