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When I Told My Dad I Had Depression

I remember when I first told my Dad I suffered from depression and he looked at me and said “I get depressed sometimes too.” I quickly discarded his sentiment and replied, “It’s not the same thing.”

When I reflect back to that moment, I think it was not fair to tell my parent that they didn’t know what it was like or what I was talking about cause why… it’s not “clinical depression?” He said there were times he didn’t want to get out of bed, and I said but you do. Cause he did. He got up every morning and worked out and went to work and kept it moving. But that doesn’t mean that he didn’t have times when he was down.

It is really hard when you come out to your parents, so to speak, on your mood disorder and all that entails. They don’t want you to feel like you are alone, and that they might not understand. It is a tough conversation but, when you have it, it’s important to keep in mind that clinical depression is just a term. Depression has many faces. It has many tales. Just cause you have a mental illness doesn’t make you the black sheep in the family. Everyone struggles, everyone experiences their own mind, and who am I to think my depression is real cause it is considered or called clinical.

Depression is depression. And everyone has a right to their own definition of depression. You don’t necessarily have to be glued to your bed, or afraid to face the world to be depressed. It happens to everyone, everywhere, at any time.

And knowing that gives me peace and some sort of solidarity. I am not alone, and neither are you.

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When I Told My Dad I Had Depression

Erica Loberg

Erica Loberg was born and raised in Los Angeles, CA. She attended Columbia University in New York and graduated with a BA in English. She is a published poet and author of Inside the Insane, Screaming at the Void, What Men Should Know About Women, What Women Should Know About Men, Diamonds From The Rough and Undressed.

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Loberg, E. (2016). When I Told My Dad I Had Depression. Psych Central. Retrieved on January 22, 2020, from


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