Sometimes people expect you to buck up. Sometimes you put the pressure on yourself to buck up. But, it doesn’t go that way when you’re depressed.
When you are confused about your mental state, or feel off, it’s not like you can talk yourself out of it. And the worse thing is to have people say “snap out of it.” It’s hard to snap out of anything when you can’t put your finger on why your mind is thinking they way that it is. I had an English teacher in high school that would cringe if he saw me end a sentence with an “is” but I don’t have it in me to say it another way. Which is fine.
If you can’t buck up good. That’s ok. It’s just a phase. And your loved ones aren’t going to necessarily always get it, and come back with their responses like deal, you’re fine etc…. It’s ok to know that they might not get it. And it shouldn’t diminish your own attention to your mental state. Sometimes you can’t buck up. And that’s ok.