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Selfish vs. Self-full – Knowing the Difference

loveyourselfcrpdSome of us struggle with deciphering the difference between being selfish versus self-full.  Feeling selfish can lead to feelings of guilt or confusion cause sometimes it’s hard to know the difference between taking care of yourself, versus coming across as selfish.

Here are three simple ideas to ask yourself, and think about, when you are faced with this dilemma:

  1. Why do you feel guilty? – Guilt is an emotion that stems from the self.  We think someone makes us feel guilty when really you are making yourself feel guilty. You can control your guilt once you acknowledge it, so when guilt crosses your mind, take a deep breath and let it go.
  2. What is stopping you from taking care of yourself? – Think about why you don’t find time for yourself.  Notice I didn’t say can’t cause you can, you simply choose not to. So, whatever is holding you back can be managed because you are in charge of you. Don’t hold yourself back from yourself.
  3. Saying no is not a crime – Saying no is saying yes to you.

Being Self-full – We need time to take care of ourselves, and sometimes it’s hard to know when we require me time. It is difficult to be present with someone when you are distracted with a need to have time alone. The best way to be a good parent, or friend, or partner, is to keep in mind that you can’t love others without loving yourself, so take time to love yourself and you’ll find being self-full is truly the antithesis of selfish.

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Selfish vs. Self-full – Knowing the Difference

Erica Loberg

Erica Loberg was born and raised in Los Angeles, CA. She attended Columbia University in New York and graduated with a BA in English. She is a published poet and author of Inside the Insane, Screaming at the Void, What Men Should Know About Women, What Women Should Know About Men, Diamonds From The Rough , Undressed, and I'm Not Playing.

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Loberg, E. (2013). Selfish vs. Self-full – Knowing the Difference. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 9, 2020, from


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