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Don’t Be Mad At Me: The Reality of the Female Psyche Today

having it allWomen cannot have it all.  This is a fact.  In many ways the feminist movement bit women ’cause we rallied for equality when, simply put, men and women are not equal.

The “modern woman” is faced with a double-edged sword.  We need to have a career to land a man than once we’re married, we’re supposed to drop everything and have a family.  Women spend thousands of dollars ensuring they are marketable to men by having high educations and flourishing careers, then have to ditch that profession to raise a family.  And women who don’t want to work and just want to raise a family are frowned upon by our culture.

What does this mean to the female human psyche?

Pressure, disappointments and some paranoia.  In many ways, the state of women’s “lib,” so to speak, is not freedom or liberation.  It’s stress.  So what do we do to appease the mind and stay happy?

Stop thinking you can have to it all and stop letting our culture convince you.  It’s not a bad or negative way to approach your life.  Accepting this fact can be liberating.  Mental health awareness is not just chemical.  It is not strictly nature.  It is nurture that can take a toll on one’s mental happiness and over time can cause depression should such expectations fall short.

Be aware of how your surroundings affect your mental state.  Be wary of men who, off the bat, want to know where you were educated, what you do for a living, and what can you bring to the table financially. Give yourself a break and pat yourself on the back for being whoever you are, sans environmental cultural mishaps.

You are a “modern woman.”  Once you face the reality that men and women are not equal, thank God, such a realization may just set your mind free and allow you to thrive despite the pressures that occur when people think we’re superwomen.

You’re not.  And there is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting that.  You might just find mental strength in challenging the system by acknowledging that you are a human being with an influential mind that doesn’t need to succumb to environmental behaviors that fall short of the truth.

You may not be able to have it all, but you can certainly find mental strength in knowing that you are courageously acceping this reality and working toward not allowing nurture to affect the nature of your mind.

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Don’t Be Mad At Me: The Reality of the Female Psyche Today

Erica Loberg

Erica Loberg was born and raised in Los Angeles, CA. She attended Columbia University in New York and graduated with a BA in English. She is a published poet and author of Inside the Insane, Screaming at the Void, What Men Should Know About Women, What Women Should Know About Men, Diamonds From The Rough and Undressed.

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Loberg, E. (2012). Don’t Be Mad At Me: The Reality of the Female Psyche Today. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 29, 2020, from


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