Depression

Fare Thee Well–Some Parting Thoughts

When I first agreed to be a blogger for PsychCentral, it was an agreement to experiment with the blogging process. Now that I've blogged regularly for the three month trial period I'd committed to, I've discovered that blogging isn't for me. I can offer the reasons, but the bottom line is that the relationship between blogger and reader is too distant to satisfy me.

I have not gotten very much in the way...
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Depression

How Well Do You Know Yourself…Really?

How well do you know yourself? Some of the most depressed people I’ve ever treated became depressed by trapping themselves in circumstances where they really just didn’t belong. With eyes wide open, yet not really seeing, they ignored their own basic nature and got absorbed in situations that violated that personal nature.

Here’s an example of what I mean. One of my clients, Joyce, is depressed, divorced, and in her...
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Depression

Self-Aware? Or Lost in Space?

The tendency of people in general, and depressed people in particular, to excessively use their own frames of reference in interpreting and reacting to life experiences is called an “internal orientation” by psychologists. The term internal orientation describes someone who reflexively uses his or...
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Depression

Better Relationships? Why Bother?

In my posts, I regularly focus on the importance of good relationships with others as a core ingredient of feeling good. Why? Because many studies from a variety of fields have all shown that people who are connected to other people in positive relationships have significantly lower rates of depression than those people who are not.

People in happy marriages, for example, have a much lower risk of developing depression...
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Depression

Form Over Substance

The emphasis in our culture, unfortunately, has increasingly become one of form over substance: too often image matters more than truth. People are so wrapped up in their solitary pursuits of personal interests and satisfaction that other people have merely become tools for achieving it.

Truth and integrity end up taking a back seat to winning. Here’s an example: Parents emphasize the importance of getting into the “right” college, which becomes their...
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Depression

What You Focus on You Amplify: Clinical Hypnosis Enhances Treatment

This post is all about developing the kind of focus that can not only help you feel better, but be better. I have much more than a casual interest in the topic of how your focus influences your life experience: For more than three decades, I have focused on two primary domains of professional interest: Applying clinical hypnosis in short term psychotherapies, and treating depression strategically in individuals,...
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Depression

Can Too Much Reliance on Technology Become a Depressant?

Life in the United States and around the world has grown incredibly complicated, driven by many different forces, of course, but none more significant than technology. Before the internet, the mass media (television, radio, newspapers, magazines) was how we got entertainment, news, inspirations, and first direct insights into how others lived, even if they were just characters in a TV show.

Parents worried their kids watched too much TV now have to...
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