Last week, I wrote a post called, “It’s Time to Stop Joking About ADHD.”
That post has (so far) received 18k hits and has been shared 11.3k times. My mind is blown and I am so incredibly grateful for the opportunity to spread awareness about loving a child with ADHD.
There were a lot of people who went above and beyond to encourage me, which I will be forever grateful for! The number of people who read it and shared it was truly astounding. There was so much ADHD awareness spread last week because of supportive people!
That being said… holy cow. I had no idea how much backlash comes with 11,000 shares. For some reason, when people read a post with that many shares, they feel the need to tear it down and make sure everyone knows it’s not worth getting as much attention as it has.
Why do people do that? I don’t know. I’ll ever know.
Not everyone does that (like I said, there were a lot of amazing supporters), but there were a lot of people who attacked me for “making a big deal about something that doesn’t matter.” One person even said, “People joke about inappropriate stuff all the time. That’s just life. Get over it.”
To that comment, in particular, I say… I believe the world can be better. It’s not “just life.” It’s people setting really low expectations for the world around them (and for themselves) and accepting all the crap that comes with it. It’s people saying it’s okay to hurt someone else because it’s building character in the other person.
No. Just no.
It will NEVER be okay to belittle someone else for the sake of making yourself or someone else laugh. It will never be okay to make light of something that someone else feels pain over. How dare you justify being rude to other people when 11,000 people have rallied together to say, “YES! That is painful!”
And to all the people who have ADHD themselves and said I made too big of a deal about it… I want you to think about something someone said to you in your life that broke your spirit. Something that made you feel less worthy and less capable. It doesn’t have to be about your ADHD – just something in general.
Why would you ever want to cause someone else to feel that way? It might not be painful for you to hear someone joke about your ADHD, but that doesn’t mean it’s not painful for other people.
Like I told one commentator, everyone has different life experiences and everyone has varying levels of sensitivity to hardships. Some people have softer hearts than others.
You can’t hold someone else to the same standard of toughness that you hold yourself to. It’s not fair. You have no right to tell someone else how they’re allowed to feel, even if you have the same disorder as them.
All brains are different. All lives are different. Circumstances are different, environments are different, hearts are different, personalities are different.
You cannot speak for another human being.
For example, I have an anxiety disorder. I’ve had it since I was a kid. Does that mean I’m allowed to speak for every other person in the world who has anxiety and tell the world how they feel and what offends them? Absolutely not. I’m not their spokesperson and they’re not mine. They don’t know what hurts my heart and I don’t know what hurts theirs.
So here’s to all the people who encouraged that post and helped me spread positive awareness about behavioral and mood disorders. You’re really awesome.
… And to all the people who tried to put road blocks in front of my blog, keeping me from spreading awareness and showing others kindness… I hope you learn how to “rejoice with those who rejoice” and “love your neighbor as yourself,” instead of trying to squash other people’s happiness and belittle their pain.
May the world be kinder to you than you’ve been to it.