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  • July 8, 2020 at 9:20 am

    So many folks on PsychCentral forum are so afraid of anger, of having it, of expressing it. I am bipolar. I feel that anger is a natural emotion meant to signal the possible need for a flight or fight response. Of course many of us, overwhelmed with emotions, have difficulty honing the proper response to feelings of anger. I love this article because it stresses the need to be able to master setting boundaries. I agree with the author that this is something to be mastered. Some people’s intellect, genetic and emotional makeup makes this easier than for others. And there is the parental factor from our childhoods. My mom grew up in the era when women were all supposed to be like Donna Reed, mainly NICE, a gracious helpmate to their husband and not the main disciplinarian. Whew. I was in college and new to the work of work when it became necessary for women to know how to assert themselves in the work world. Though my mom when forced to, later learned to assert herself enough to be an elementary teacher in tough schools, she was a bad role model for me in learning how to effectively set boundaries. I have come a long way, but I still need to work on this. Thanks for this important article!

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