3 thoughts on “14 Things Not to Say to Your Partner

  • March 9, 2018 at 3:45 pm

    These are very appropriate and mature responses that I think most of us would prefer to speak if given the option. There are reasons we are not so mature in times of emotional stress. I wonder if there is a brain chemistry component to having the composure and mindfulness to speak in this manner when we are feeling very upset.
    It seems that this type of mature response would come if simply practiced, even if it does not feel natural at first, and then these specific reactions, words, become a healthy habit after time. Our emotions may sabotage our well being, while our brain will react to a positive change if taken seriously and repeated. It is also a good way of role modeling for the other that which you prefer.
    If approached with this in mind, we might come to saying things with maturity purposefully in an attempt to create the habit, after discovering how such communication may reward us.

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    • March 9, 2018 at 5:49 pm

      DG,
      Excellent points. Practicing the healthier responses can help one use them more readily when in the heat of the moment. Thanks for your contribution.
      Dan

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  • March 11, 2018 at 7:31 pm

    Never start a sentence with the word “You.” Men are problem solvers but women usually just want men to listen to them because they feel better just by being heard. Set a limit on how old a subject can be open for discussion. A few days? A week? Stick to it. Don’t bring up old stuff or change the subject. Limit discussions to 20 minutes. No one can remember anything after that. If tempers flair take a break.

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