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The Importance Of Validating Children With ADHD


Having Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder can be overwhelming.  This can lead to punishment from others and guilt from oneself.  Instead of punishing children with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, it is essential to validate them for their hard work, at school for example.  This article will describe some examples of ways to provide validation to children, as well as the benefits of providing validation to children.

Examples Of Providing Validation To Children

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Providing feedback to your child is important. Reinforcing good behavior with rewards may lead to more good behavior in school, at home, and in social settings.

One way you can reinforce good behavior is by providing immediate, specific praise when your child does something well, such as:

  • “You remembered to bring home the homework for all of your classes.”
  • “You did a good job following directions.”
  • “You worked hard on your project today.”

You can also use hand signals to let your child know that he or she has done something well. For instance, you could hold your fingers up in a “V” sign for “victory” or give a thumbs up when rules are followed. Writing short notes of praise to your child may also help, as well.

Validating Statements Provide Children With Encouragement

On a first note, validation provides children with a strong sense of encouragement.  To explain further, if you punish a child for the mistakes that he or she has made, the child is going to become discouraged.  This child will most likely not improve and may continue to make the same mistakes out of shame, low self-esteem, and embarrassment.  Bottom line, provide validation to children.  Do not provide punishment to children.

Validating Statements Provide Children With A Strong Sense Of Accomplishment

In addition to providing children with a sense of encouragement, providing validation also provides children with a strong sense of accomplishment.  When you provide a sense of validation to a child, you are letting the child know that he or she has succeeded.  This provides the child with a strong sense of accomplishment and enables the child to realize that he or she can succeed and do well.


This article has provided readers with examples of validation, in addition to also providing readers with the benefits of validation for children.  Always remember, even if you cannot see it, children are always trying.  Remember that.  Give them credit for what they do.

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The Importance Of Validating Children With ADHD

Lauren Walters

My name is Lauren Walters. I am currently heading into my final semester of graduate school for Mental Health Counseling in the Spring of 2016. Through my own experiences with mental illness, I love to inspire others through my writings and reassure them that they can live healthy, productive lives, despite mental illness. I hope you enjoy my articles. Feel free to comment. I will be sure to respond to you questions and/or comments in a prompt manner. Enjoy!

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Walters, L. (2016). The Importance Of Validating Children With ADHD. Psych Central. Retrieved on August 3, 2020, from


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