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The Darker Side of Grief


I recently had an interesting online interaction. I’m a member of several grief blog sites and I witnessed two grieving men cussing and calling each other out over a seemingly harmless joke.

4 thoughts on “The Darker Side of Grief

  • February 17, 2017 at 5:52 pm

    Thank-you for your honesty. Anger is truly one of the hard emotions to deal with after the death of a child. I have never been so angry in my life, I have never seen my husband so angry. For me life became so much more black and white. If people weren’t willing to take responsibility for their actions, to be accountable for their life, I couldn’t and still can’t stand it. Strangely other things don’t bother me at all anymore, they are no longer relevant.
    I like that you talk about having someone in your corner. Many men, I think, forget that their mental health is super important too, and seeing a professional is 100% ok.
    How do I subscribe to your blog? I can’t seem to see the “subscribe” button.
    Best wishes to you on your journey.

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    • February 21, 2017 at 7:47 am

      It certainly is. It’s important to look at anger as an adaptive response. So often we look purely at its negative consequences and approach it from a shame-based perspective. Guilt does not help, it only gets us angry at ourselves.

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    • February 21, 2017 at 7:57 am

      I’ll find out how you can subscribe. For now know that I have a second article, Just Stay Alive and expect to publish at least once a week. btw, not strange at all. I too was amazed how apathetic I became to things that just didn’t matter. We get a keen perspective that life matters and everything else is a far second. That being said, I still am angry and oft my anger is irrational. I get made at older people as if its unfair that they get to live. but I get made when people get too wrapped up in stuff that doesn’t matter, which I can use for good. I wish you and your husband well on your journey. While we suffer alone, it’s in our suffering that we find common ground. If you would like to read a short story about my experience you can go to myatstory.org and scroll down to Andrew’s story.
      Peace,
      Andy

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    • February 22, 2017 at 5:43 pm

      Angelmum,

      If you are interested, I’d like you to consider following my FaceBook page at facebook.com/throughlifeandloss. I post all of my blogs to this site and you will be notified.

      Peace,

      Andy M Davidson

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