Coping Skills

Completly Stupid and Utterly Pointless

CSAUP is the acronym  for “Completely Stupid and Utterly Pointless,” a 13 mile group run/exercise I participated in yesterday. The mileage is broken into six stops for pushups, cinder blocks, and sit-ups in the sand. Why would thirty or more men, most who rarely run more than four miles do such a thing?

I dunno, ‘cause they asked me? I think as I’m running the last mile leg. Maybe I shouldn’t have tried to stay in...

Coping Skills

A Little Bit Of A Sigh Added In

A friend who lost their spouse wrote that after more than a decade, they have happiness and joy but, “it always has a little bit of a sigh added to it.” I like that but remember, it has taken a long time to get to that point. Reaching the top of a mountain, seeing the miles of wilderness, marveling at miracles, and relishing in a "goose bump moment," all make life special.

And now all come with...


How the Captain Kept Me Sane

There are all kinds of cereal in this world. Cereal as a force blew up after Will Kellogg turned over-cooked flakes into America’s breakfast staple. What was initially thought as a health food, the fifties and sixties  exploited with sugar. Sugar Pops, Fruit Loops, and Frosted Flakes had their share of followers.

But Cap'n Crunch took it to a whole new level. Tiny rectangles, shaped liked pillows were anything but soft. Hardened sugar crystals cut kid's gums....


Be the Dad

Father’s Day is not unlike a lot of holidays. I wake up no different. Yea I’m a Dad, it’s who I am and what I do, but my little family gets to say “But you’re our Dad.” On my birthday I think no woop, I was born, a year latter and I didn’t die, but thanks for noticing. And my family gets to say, “Thanks for sticking around.” On Veteran’s Day I think, I served, I...


Living With Hope and Grief

After my son died, I simply did not know what to do, what to say, where to go, or how to do it. We often say, “It left me speechless, I just don’t know what to say,” yet we then go on and on describing the sensation. In this case, I truly did not have the words, I didn’t know what to do, I was absolutely lost. Gone was my voice, my inner voice, in a swirl of...