Archives for Self Improvement

Courage

Oh To Be Like Alice!

"I give myself very good advice, but I very seldom follow it".  This is one of my favorite quotes from Alice In Wonderland.  It is a very special quote because it rings true in several areas of my life.

As a therapist I don't really give advice.  I like to think that I work as a guide to help people discover positive solutions and make the best decisions for themselves.  My motto...
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Coping

Anxiety? Oh No, Not Me

I was convinced I was dying.  As a matter of fact, there was no way you could convince me otherwise.  Oddly I accepted my fate and whispered to my husband "call 911, I'm dying".  I was sweating profusely, I could feel my heartbeat in my neck and my pulse echoed in my ears.  I couldn't breathe, my face felt weird, my hands were numb, and I was shaking like a leaf.  EMS arrived...
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Coping

Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations

A few months ago a very good friend of mine said to me, "the majority of your frustrations are due to your unrealistic expectations."  I didn't know how to feel about her statement.  There I sat venting to her about the frustrations of my life, waiting for her to co-sign on my misery, and that's what she gave me.  I have to admit that it stung a little, but I slowly began to...
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General

Stop Procrastinating Today… Not Tomorrow

Earlier this week I wrote and entry about reasons we procrastinate and negative consequences.  As promised this entry contains tips for ways to stop procrastinating.  In writing this I thought of what helps me when I  am tempted to revert back to procrastination.  Believe me,  I am tempted as procrastinating seems like the better option when I'm overwhelmed.  However, I know this is not the truth and I am a true believer that...
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Coping

Why Procrastinate?

I have to admit, I used to live by the motto: "Why do today what I can put off until tomorrow?" Honestly, I still find myself thinking this way from time to time.  American aphorist Mason Cooley stated, "procrastination makes easy things hard, hard things harder".  So why do we procrastinate?

For those of us who procrastinate, we may often find that in doing so, we create unnecessary obstacles.  We find ourselves racing to...
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Courage

Just Say NO… It’s Okay

We have all experienced a moment where we have been approached by a friend, co-worker, or maybe even a spouse and asked to do something we really didn't feel like doing.   We've also had those moments where instead of saying no, we've smiled and responded with the dreaded "yes".  So why do we have difficulties telling others no when we don't feel like doing something? 

The Golden Rule Effect

Many of us were instructed at a...
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emotional health

I Just Don’t Feel Like It: How to Motivate Yourself

Let's be honest, we all have some time where we just don't feel like it.  The "it" may be going to work, tackling a project, completing chores, helping the kids with homework, or just getting out of the bed.  Whatever the "it" is, sometimes we just don't feel like doing it.

I've been in this slump lately.  I've noticed that often when I'm unmotivated, I'm usually overwhelmed. Being overwhelmed is...
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Coping

Seven Days of Not Complaining

In the last week I've noticed something about myself that was a little concerning.  Life has been happening, and it's been a little more chaotic than usual. Instead of taking it in stride, I've been a lot!  I am not a chronic complainer.  As a matter of fact, I usually find myself not only finding my silver lining, but finding it for others as well.  This week, I've just been frustrated.

When I...
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Coping

Expect the Unexpected

This week was filled with unexpected events.  It started with a trip to urgent care after my daughter felt the appropriate place for a green bean was in her ear.  It was followed by unexpected illnesses, crises at work, and another trip to urgent care after my daughter’s face lost a war with a mosquito lurking in our car on the ride home.

As we all know,“life happens,” and this week...
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