When assessing clients I often ask, “on a scale of 1 -10, where would you rate your self-confidence?”

On average, most clients respond with a 6-7.  I sometimes get very low responses, but very rarely will someone look me in the eye and say, “my self-confidence is a 10.”

Whether we like to admit it or not, at some point we all feel like we could use a little boost in the self-confidence department. Below are a few suggestions that may help improve your self-confidence and have you feeling better about yourself.

  •  Let go of fear

Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?”  More than half of the things we worry about never happen, but it’s easy to get lost in those thoughts.  Are you afraid of speaking up?  Challenge yourself to voice your opinion.  Are you afraid to stand out?  Wear that red lipstick or put on that flashy tie.  Again, what’s the worst that could happen, and is it really a probable scenario?

  • I think, therefore I am

Think positive and you will be positive.  I am a firm believer that what we think and what we believe plays apart in all of the outcomes in life.  Think positive and positive things will come.  Step out of your comfort zone and say “I CAN do this.”  We tend to talk ourselves out of things before we ever begin to try them.  If you don’t believe you can think positive, then as my mother and father would say “fake it ‘til you make it.”

It may seem silly, but pretend to be the confident person you wish you were, eventually you will begin to make that role more of a reality and you may be surprised by the results.

  • What is “failure”?

Your view of failure may be your self-confidence killer.  We are taught so many meanings of failure as we grow and this definition varies among cultures, statuses and individuals.  Redefine the meaning of failure in your life and focus more on your definition of success.

  • Don’t compare yourself to others

If you are always looking at the person you believe is better than you, has more than you, or is capable of more than you; how much time are you spending looking at yourself?  Challenge yourself to be a better version of you.  I often joke with friends about upgrading myself.  I challenge my growth daily and feel it is important others do the same.  Don’t settle for being like someone else, when no one can be better at being you than you.

Former publisher of Forbes Magazine Malcolm S. Forbes was quoted saying, “too many people overvalue what they are not, and undervalue what they are.”  In the famous words of Bing Crosby: “you’ve got to accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative.”

Know your self-worth and value everything you are.

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