Coping with Challenges

What, Again, Is Mental Toughness?

Not long after David Goggins released his memoir, Can’t Hurt Me, it became a National bestseller. Tracing his early childhood experiences of physical abuse, poverty, and prejudice, through his struggle with obesity and depression, the book tells the story of how Goggins used mental toughness to eventually become the only man in history to complete the elite Navy Seal, Army Ranger, and Air Force Tactical Controller training programs.

Coping with Challenges

The Backwards Success Equation

In his brilliant book, Happiness at Work: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work, Shawn Achor, suggests that most people follow a formula that has been indoctrinated into them from parents, companies, and society itself. That is: If you work hard, you will become successful, and then you will be happy.


Setbacks and Why We Need Them

Setbacks force a fundamental collision of two realities: that which we would like to maintain (our subjective reality) and that which is actually occurring (the objective reality). According to psychologist Stephen Joseph, author of What Doesn’t Kill Us: The New Psychology of Posttraumatic Growth, a setback, or traumatic experience, causes a person’s life story to rupture and shatters assumptions about ourselves, others, and the world. Setbacks, by their very nature, violate our beliefs about the way things are supposed to happen. What results are two separate experiences that are in contradiction. On the one hand, we want to believe that the world is safe, people are trustworthy, and we are worthy, yet being rejected, losing a loved one, and being in an unexpected accident all contradict these beliefs (Joseph, 2011).

Coping with Challenges

The Tetris Effect, and Why You See What You Look For

One of the seven principles Shawn Achor, the author of, The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work describes in his book is called the Tetris Effect (Achor, 2010). If you have ever played the game Tetris you will instantly recognize why. Tetris is a seemingly simple game in which four different shapes fall from the top of the screen and the player rotates or moves them to fit in with the other pieces such that an unbroken line appears. When this happens, that line disappears creating more room on the screen with which to fill up with more shapes.

Coping with Challenges

Skin in the Game

It is what separates the good players from the great players. It is what helps us master thoughts and emotions. It is the basis of reaching our goals.

And, we can hack it. It takes just five minutes a day according to an article in Psychology Today.

Coping with Challenges

The Art Of Pacing

When I was running ultramarathon races, I used to pride myself on my ability to leave some gas in the tank and finish the race on a high. When I was working with trauma clients, I used to love learning with them how to contain emotions, build confidence, and each day take on a little more.