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Everyone Else Looks Like They Are Having More Fun – Digital Media and The Happiness Paradox

social media photoIt is hard to peruse Facebook today and not make a few comparisons.

Yet according to research led by computer scientists at Indiana University, the conclusion that most of us arrive at when we log into Facebook, Twitter or Instagram is: everyone else looks like they’re having more fun.

Randomly selecting 4.8 million Twitter users, Johan Bollen, associate professor in the IU School of Informatics and Computing, and his colleagues analyzed the group for people who followed one another on the network, creating a social network of about 102,000 users with 2.3 million connections.

The team then narrowed their focus to individuals with 15 or more “friends” on the network, which created a group of 39,110 Twitter users. They then analyzed the sentiment of these users’ tweets, a common method in computer science and marketing to assess whether digital postings are generally positive or negative in tone. Users with higher positive sentiment were defined as “happy.”

For the purposes of this study, which used publicly available data from Twitter, reciprocal followers were defined as “friends” and users with the most connections were defined as “popular.”

A statistical analysis of that final group found that 94.3 percent of these users had fewer friends on average than their friends. Significantly, it also found that 58.5 percent of these users weren’t as happy as their friends on average (Bollen et al., 2017).

Bollen explains, “In other words, a majority of users may feel that they’re less popular than their friends on average. They may also have the impression that they’re less happy than their friends on average” (Bollen, 2017).

“This analysis contributes to a growing body of evidence that social media may be harmful to users who ‘overindulge’ in these services since it’s nearly impossible to escape negative comparisons to their friends’ popularity and happiness” (Bollen, 2017).

Part of the problem, especially with Facebook, is what is known as the Friendship Paradox, which finds that most people on a social network have fewer connections on average than their friends, since the most popular users intersect with a higher-than-average number of social circles. And this study is the first to reveal that these more popular users are also happier on average, inflating the overall happiness level of a user’s social circle – an effect Bollen calls the “Happiness Paradox” (Bollen, 2017).

Bollen explains, “Social media users are not only less popular than their friends on average but also less happy. This study suggests that happiness is correlated with popularity, and also that the majority of people on social networks aren’t as happy as their friends due to this correlation between friendship and popularity” (Bollen et al., 2017).

“Social media users may experience higher levels of social dissatisfaction and unhappiness due to negative comparison between their and their friends’ happiness and popularity” (Bollen, 2017).

Interestingly, the study also found that social media users tend to fall into two groups: happier users with happier friends and unhappier users with unhappier friends – and the unhappier users were still likely to be less happy than their unhappy friends, suggesting they’re more strongly affected by their friends’ unhappiness (Bollen et al., 2017).

Bollen explains, “Happy social media users may think their friends are more popular and slightly happier than they are – and unhappy social media users will likely have unhappy friends who still seem happier and more popular than they are on average” (Bollen, 2017).

While it may appear that everyone else is happier (and having more fun) on Facebook, for those who seek excessive praise and validation, it is the perfect platform.

Everyone Else Looks Like They Are Having More Fun – Digital Media and The Happiness Paradox

Claire Dorotik-Nana, LMFT

Claire Dorotik-Nana LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in post-traumatic growth, leveraging adversity, and other epic human achievements. Claire has written multiple continuing education courses for Professional Development Resources, Zur Institute, and International Sport Science Association. Claire has also authored multiple books, including:
Leverage: The Science of Turning Setbacks into Springboards and On The Back Of A Horse: Harnessing The Healing Power Of The Human-Equine Bond. For more information about Leveraging Adversity or Claire, visit

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Dorotik-Nana, C. (2019). Everyone Else Looks Like They Are Having More Fun – Digital Media and The Happiness Paradox. Psych Central. Retrieved on February 22, 2020, from


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