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Four Surprising Ways To Get More Out Of Your Life

happy people photoDon’t we all wish we had more energy? Were more creative? Had better solutions to the complex problems that plague us? Had more fulfilling careers? Had more intimate relationships?

What do all these things have in common?

They all start with us.

That’s right. They all start with our intention to make them happen. So if you are wondering what separates those people who seem to have boundless energy, a ready reserve of positivity, and enough resilience to hold off a tidal wave, from the rest of us, it all starts with what they do every day. Day in and day out what these little habits add up to is a pattern of intention. That is, purposely going after what you want.

So what are these habits?

Get up every day when you plan to. People who get more out of life don’t wait for life to come to them, they go after it. They start their day when they want to and how they want to. As opposed to rolling out of bed, rushing to work, and arriving unprepared, their morning ritual is an exercise in deliberate practice. The practice of staying true to yourself, for them, begins with the moment they wake up.

Accomplish something toward a larger goal every day. Much of what motivates productivity is the feeling of accomplishing something larger than yourself. It’s the small things we do every day that, over time, become something larger. People who get the most out of life know exactly how to use this technique. Because even though they are as busy as the rest of us, they manage to squeeze in time for their larger goals – for the things that matter most to them. So if it’s running a marathon you desire or starting a new business, the practice is the same – you have to work at it in small steps every day.

Give Back. The difference between people who get more out of life and those who don’t isn’t material. Fulfilled people know this. Getting more out of life doesn’t mean having more. Instead it means valuing what you have. We are all given the same opportunity: 24 hours to do with as we please. We can spend it in misery. We can complain. We can criticize. Or, we can do something that makes us feel better. Study after study has demonstrated that what has immediate positive effects on people’s mood is helping others. When we do this not only do we realize that we have more to give than we thought, but that while it costs us nothing, the payoff is exponential.

Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone. If you want to stay exactly where you are, keep doing exactly as you have always done. If you want more, you are going to have to get out of your comfort zone. But here’s the trick. Getting out of your comfort zone becomes a whole lot easier when you do it every day. Instead of waiting for those rare opportunities when you are forced out of your comfort zone, make a daily practice of deliberately pushing yourself beyond where you are comfortable and the process becomes almost routine. Over time, what you will realize is that not only can you do a whole lot more than you think, but that pushing yourself is the key to feeling better.

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Four Surprising Ways To Get More Out Of Your Life

Claire Dorotik-Nana, LMFT

Claire Dorotik-Nana LMFT is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in post-traumatic growth, leveraging adversity, and other epic human achievements. Claire has written multiple continuing education courses for Professional Development Resources, Zur Institute, and International Sport Science Association. Claire has also authored multiple books, including:
Leverage: The Science of Turning Setbacks into Springboards and On The Back Of A Horse: Harnessing The Healing Power Of The Human-Equine Bond. For more information about Leveraging Adversity or Claire, visit

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Dorotik-Nana, C. (2017). Four Surprising Ways To Get More Out Of Your Life. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 21, 2020, from


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