It is what separates the good players from the great players. It is what helps us master thoughts and emotions. It is the basis of reaching our goals. And, we can hack it. It takes just five minutes a day according to an article in Psychology Today.
When I was running ultramarathon races, I used to pride myself on my ability to leave some gas in the tank and finish the race on a high. When I was working with trauma clients, I used to love learning with them how to contain emotions, build confidence, and each day take on a little more.
It’s hard to talk about happiness without acknowledging that we are not all dealt the same stack of cards and life events can sometimes seriously interrupt our happiness attempts. Interpretations do matter and can mean the difference between thinking of imprisonment as, well, imprisonment, and a "glorious experience" -- as described by Morese Bickham who spent 37 years in prison for a crime he didn't commit.
Completion, certainty, and a guarantee all have one thing in common – they leave no room for questioning. And these are things that give us a sense of security – a sense that we can trust in the process that things will be as they should be, and that we will be okay.
In his enthralling book, The Rise of Superman: Decoding the Science of Ultimate Human Performance, Steven Kotler, describes mastery as a euphoric experience, and one that transforms us. He writes, “When doing what we love transforms us into the best possible version of ourselves and that version hints at even greater future possibilities, the urge to explore those possibilities becomes feverish compulsion” (Kotler, 2014).
Prudence, impatience, and laziness are typically thought of as entrenched personality traits that guide how people weigh the cost of risk, delay, and effort. However, research done by Jean Daunizeau and Marie Devaine, from INSERM, the French National Institute of Health and Medical Research in Paris suggests otherwise.
Mahatma Gandi once said that the best way to find ourselves is to lose ourselves in the service to others. Yet a fascinating study shows that just how we help – and what we think about the effectiveness of that help – significantly influences how we feel about it.