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Recovering from a Toxic Childhood? 4 Ways to Be Conscious of Triggers and Disarm Them

Behaviors learned in childhood are hard to unlearn, especially if they’re largely unconscious defense mechanisms formed in response to a toxic environment. This is a problem all unloved daughters struggle with and one measure of how far you’ve come on the road is healing is how well or badly you do in situations which vividly recall the past. Yes, we are talking what people refer to as triggers.

The problem is that these old default positions...


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A Valentine’s Day Letter to My Younger Self

Last night, I asked readers on my Facebook page to write their younger selves letters as part of a self-compassion exercise for Valentine’s Day; you may want to do this too, using cool recall.  I’m writing my fifteen-year-old self; it is 1964, just months after President Kennedy was assassinated. I have suffered enormous losses myself; both my father and grandfather, the two people who I knew loved me, died in the first six months...