2 thoughts on “Are You Normalizing Abuse? 4 Signs That You Are

  • June 13, 2018 at 6:08 am

    This also happens in the workplace – perhaps not physically, but certainly mentally. Some organisations seem to breed toxic behaviour, and the norm is to ‘put up and shut up’, reporting bad behaviour makes you a new target. Result: collect your pay check, secure a reference and get the *ell out of dodge city. Employers understand about Health & Safety re machinery, safeguards, etc – but epic fail that employees should work in a respectful environment; this isn’t necessarily about bosses vs staff, but staff vs staff and no one intervenes. If concerns are raised you are either whistleblower or troublemaker and that label can follow you to the next job. Life is too short to put up with bad situations, believe in yourself and find a new path.

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  • June 13, 2018 at 9:35 am

    For years I was trapped in an abusive marriage and failed to see how bad it was. He divorced me or I would probably still be rationalizing his bad behavior. He had an abusive childhood and I always gave him a pass because of that. Now ten years after the divorce I am finally thinking clearly and realize that he was just a mean so and so. I took me years of rumination and turning over every little incident in my mind. One day a light went on and I immediately saw things for what they actually were. It has made it a lot easier to deal with him when at combined functions at family gatherings (weddings etc).

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