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Are You Normalizing Abusive Behavior? 5 Signs that You Are

It’s a sad truth reflected by the title of Dorothy Nolte’s popular inspirational poem that “Children Learn What They Live.” Daughters (and sons, for that matter) who grow up in households in which harsh criticism is meted out on the daily, ridicule and shaming are part of the routine, or belittling and blame-shifting are constants in the family dynamic adapt as they need to in order to get along and survive.
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Anger

Are You “Too Sensitive?” 5 Clues You Might Be

Telling someone she’s “too sensitive” is a freighted statement, often used by emotionally abusive people, manipulators, and controlling types. It’s often a way of shifting blame from the person who’s said or done something hurtful to his or her target. Unloved daughters often report being told this in childhood—I certainly heard it regularly—as a way of excusing or denying a mother’s or father’s toxic and damaging behaviors.
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