“Why Am I So Angry About My Childhood?”: A Key Question for the Unloved Daughter

The question of anger often comes up in messages I get from readers understandably so because while anger can play a temporarily positive role as the daughter begins to really see and understand how her childhood affected her, her continuing anger becomes yet another problem for her to tackle. This is something I remember well; I was an incredibly angry young woman in my twenties, heavily armored, quick to retaliate with a sarcastic or biting...


Recovering from a Toxic Childhood? 4 Ways to Be Conscious of Triggers and Disarm Them

Behaviors learned in childhood are hard to unlearn, especially if they’re largely unconscious defense mechanisms formed in response to a toxic environment. This is a problem all unloved daughters struggle with and one measure of how far you’ve come on the road is healing is how well or badly you do in situations which vividly recall the past. Yes, we are talking what people refer to as triggers.

The problem is that these old default positions...