Anxious behavior

5 Reasons Unloved Daughters Feel Manipulated in Relationships

Do you feel that the pattern of relationships in your life is horribly consistent, as if it’s been scripted by the same people who wrote Groundhog Day, or perhaps Titanic? That no matter where the relationship starts—whether it’s a romance or friendship—it inevitably ends up in the same place and you end up feeling betrayed, played, or used?


What is Emotional Abuse Exactly? Taking a Hard Look at a Buzzword

For a time, I belonged to a large closed Facebook group dedicated to supporting people who thought they were in various kinds of abusive relationships; I told the administrators who I was and that I was there largely to see, as a writer, what people were most concerned about. I did not post comments. But one of the astonishing revelations was how much of the dialogue was really about validating what constituted abuse in a...


Unloved Daughters, Forgiveness, and the Doormat Effect

“I forgave him for the debts it took us a decade to pay off. He promised me over and over that he’d never again gamble with our money. That he wouldn’t make a single financial decision without talking it through with me first. I found out about the loan he’d forged my name on by accident. The bank officer called to verify some details and dialed the home number, not his office. That’s when I learned that almost all the equity in our house was gone. It took me thirty-five years but after I hung up the phone, I called a divorce lawyer.”


The Child Ignored: 6 Effects of Having a Dismissive Mother

“My mother would ask me what I wanted to eat and then serve me whatever she felt like, as if I hadn’t said a word. That was true of everything: any time I expressed a wish or preference, she made it clear that what I wanted didn’t matter. They were repainting my room and she asked me what color I wanted and I said blue but also said I was fine with anything but pink. I should have known better but guess what? I came home to bubble-gum pink walls.”


6 Ways The Narcissist Turns the Tables on You

Being in a relationship with someone high in narcissistic traits can be maddening, painful, and, counterintuitively enough, exciting. As Dr. Craig Malkin notes in his book, Rethinking Narcissism, it’s easy to confuse or conflate the roller-coast ride of this kind of relationship—with its dramatic ups and downs, its quick turn from love-bombing to disparagement and control—with passion.