4 thoughts on “Surviving “All-in-the-Family” Infidelity

  • October 2, 2018 at 4:34 am

    Thank you for this comprehensive article. It really gave me clarity about the topic and awareness as well.

    • October 3, 2018 at 2:51 pm

      Thanks for the positive feedback.

  • November 8, 2018 at 6:22 pm

    Yes an interesting article and no matter how much time passes, even if you choose to divorce from your husband who committed adultery with your sister, the pain does not go away – it gets easier.

    It happened to me. My marriage disintegrated, my children were one and three. It does not go away, every time there is a family event, your children’s wedding for example where your children do not want their father to give them away, there is pain. At funerals there is the sense of betrayal. It is hard to get away from your family at these times. Then she tried the same thing with my second husband and it reinforces the fact she was never sorry, and it increases the hurt.
    Then her final accolade was to convinced family members she was groomed by my first husband, it made me realise there is no helping her, she cannot accept responsibility for her behaviour. I have realised she is a sociopath. She can only be helped if she accepts her own behaviour. I have become the outsider with my mother, my sisters and brother.
    I realised my pain is wasted on her.
    My advice is to your own way in life, and end all contact with the people you can. Move away is the best advice. I think working in a relationship with a man who can do that and behave so disrespectfully, it is very difficult and I take my hat off to anyone who has done this.

    • November 8, 2018 at 6:51 pm

      Very perceptive and genuine comment regarding the many complexity and sources of pain in the aftermath of infidelity. Thanks for sharing.


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