When Should You Stop Thinking About the Past?

It may be impossible, as an adult, to recall what it was like to be a child. Looking back on it is all we have.

As I look back on my own childhood, I can't help but ask some questions. I wonder if you might ask yourself the same from time to time. Let's see!

What was I really thinking back then? I realize that I don't honestly know, since it's been so long and...


Imposter Syndrome Genuine Talent Worksheet

Every time I was called on in class, I was sure that I was about to embarrass myself. Every time I took a test, I was sure that it had gone badly. And every time I didn’t embarrass myself — or even excelled — I believed that I had fooled everyone yet again. ~ Sheryl Sandberg

How about an imposter syndrome worksheet that addresses our natural talents? Imposter syndrome would have you chalk...


Making Decisions You Know You Will Regret

Which choice am I more likely to regret?

This is a good question to ask if you’re in a dilemma. But it takes more than just asking the question, so today I’m going to ponder the answer.

What I see in my mind's eye as I consider the choices in front of me are two paths moving forward: one path moves toward the darkness the other path moves toward the light.

Now I hear a little voice in...


Five Signs You’re Lying to Yourself

Dishonesty is a trait that most of us have no problem pointing out in others.
-Aletheia Luna

How can those of us who may suffer from imposter syndrome catch ourselves being less than genuine? Here are some signs that you're not on the up and up.

As an aside, the graphic above with the red-colored word "lies" in it - seems a bit harsh to me. When we tell white lies, we're often intending no harm...


Five Normal Things You Can’t Do When Suffering from Imposter Syndrome

In this post, we will focus on consequences without worrying so much about the definition of imposter syndrome. You can read a little about what’s behind imposter syndrome first if you’d like.
Let’s get right into the list of five normal things you cannot do while suffering from imposter syndrome.

1. Take a compliment seriously

After all, you feel like a fraud and tend to believe any success is attributed to...


Here’s Why It’s OK to Feel Sad

Because you are.
And there need be no other reason than that.

When I think of the Herculean effort I made over four decades to avoid feeling sadness or grief, I feel sad. As soon as I acknowledge feeling sad at this moment, I begin to hear dissenting voices within.

You shouldn't feel sad. 
What do you, of all people, have to be sad about?
You're sad about stuff that happened so long...


How to Change Limiting Beliefs

Here's what I find painfully interesting about limiting beliefs.

To the brain, beliefs and facts are pretty close to the same thing. The same part of your brain lights up when perceiving something you believe is true vs. know for a fact. This informs a common conundrum: How does one go about convincing others that their false beliefs are, in fact, false? And who is anyone to make the attempt, given we're all in the same boat, unable to (absolutely) distinguish...


10 Attention Seeking Behaviors We Might Do in Spite of Ourselves

Have you ever wondered why we sometimes engage in the following attention-seeking behaviors, especially if you are someone who doesn't like to be in the spotlight?

As I've considered my own behavior among the items on this list, I find it fascinating that, as a recovering imposter-syndromer, I would do any of them. These kinds of behaviors attract negative attention. I don't even like positive attention!

It's almost as if I've had an unconscious...