What is Self-Love and Why Is It So Important?

What is self-love?
There’s a lot of talk these days about self-love. It sounds great, but what does it actually mean? How do we love ourselves – and why does it matter?

Self-love means that you accept yourself fully, treat yourself with kindness and respect, and nurture your growth and wellbeing.

Self-love encompasses not only how you treat yourself but also your thoughts and feelings about yourself. So, when you conceptualize...


34 Affirmations for When Perfectionism Makes You Feel Inadequate

Perfectionism makes us feel inadequate
Perfectionism – the relentless pursuit of being flawless in an effort to prove our worth and avoid criticism -- adds unnecessary stress and pressure to our already demanding lives. When we strive for perfection rather than excellence, we’re never satisfied. We always feel deficient because we’re comparing ourselves to an impossible standard. We feel flawed and inadequate, so we try to prove our worth...


Finding Emotional Freedom After a Toxic Relationship

A toxic or codependent relationship can make you feel trapped, small, and deficient. It can feel like an anchor weighing you down, suffocating you.

People who grew up in dysfunctional families, with parents who lacked boundaries, abused drugs or alcohol, or suffered from mental illness, develop a set of coping skills that helped them deal with the chaos and dysfunction in their families. And although...


Recognizing What You Can Control and Accepting What You Can’t

Codependents often focus on other people and their problems – sometimes getting obsessed with or fixated on helping or fixing things outside of their control. Not only can this lead to self-neglect, but it’s also frustrating and largely a waste of time and energy. Instead of focusing on things that we can’t control or influence, we need to focus on what we can...


The Enmeshed Family System: What It Is and How to Break Free

Being close to your family is usually a good thing, but it’s possible to be too close.

Enmeshment describes family relationships that lack boundaries such that roles and expectations are confused, parents are overly and inappropriately reliant on their children for support, and children are not allowed to become emotionally independent or separate from their parents. Family members are emotionally fused together in an unhealthy way.
Commons signs and symptoms...

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8 Ways to Declutter Your Busy Stressed-Out Mind

Busy lives lead to busy minds.


Most of us lead busy stressful lives.

We’re overloaded with information.

We struggle to make decisions.

We can’t focus.

We rush and multitask because there never seems to be enough hours in the day to do it all.

We always feel behind.

We do things last minute because we forget or aren’t organized.

We rehash our mistakes.

We suffer from insomnia, anxiety, and stress-related ailments.

These are sure signs of an overloaded mind.

Mental clutter, just like physical...


6 Myths and 6 Truths About Perfectionism

Perfectionism seems straightforward, but it’s often misunderstood.

Many people think perfectionism helps them achieve their goals and get better results.

American culture continues to encourage perfectionism despite all of the research that indicates perfectionism is associated with increased anxiety, depression, suicidal behavior, eating disorders, relationship and health problems.*

The fallacy that perfectionism is helpful (or even necessary for success) persists because we still idealize perfectionism. We get the message from an early age (from our...