Why It’s So Hard to End a Codependent Relationship

Codependency is a hard pattern to break. Even when you’re aware of it, it’s not uncommon to repeat the same type of codependent relationships, behaviors, and thoughts.  This is in part because codependency is learned in childhood – so it’s well-practiced and feels natural. But there are other factors as well, and in this article, I’ll discuss some of the...


20 Affirmations for 2020

Let’s start the new year on a positive note!

Even though nothing magically changes on January 1st, most of us like the idea of a fresh start. And the start of a new year is a natural time to look forward – to think about what matters most to us, identify what we want to focus on, and set goals or intentions for the new year.

But let’s face it. it’s easy to get...


My Top 10 Codependency Articles of 2019


At the end of every year, I like to take stock of which articles resonated with you – my readers. Below you’ll find the 10 most popular articles from my blog, Happily Imperfect, written in 2019. They include articles about boundaries, dysfunctional families, healing from trauma and feelings of unworthiness, codependent relationships, and perfectionism.

If you missed reading any of these articles earlier in the year, now is a great opportunity to see if...

holiday stress

A Guide to Coping with the Holidays

If you’re experiencing holiday stress, you’re not alone. For many of us, the holidays are the most stressful time of the year.

Below are seven articles from my blog that can help you cope with holidays. You’ll find articles about maintaining healthy habits, self-care, dealing with difficult family members, setting boundaries, coping with grief and loneliness, and preparing for holiday travel. I hope they will help you manage and reduce...

mental health

14 Things You Need to Start Doing for Your Emotional Health


What does it mean to be emotionally healthy and what can we do to improve our emotional health?

According to , “People who are emotionally healthy are in control of their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. They are able to cope with life’s challenges. They can keep problems in perspective and bounce back from setbacks. They feel good about themselves and have good...

holiday stress

When the Holidays Aren’t the Most Wonderful Time of the Year

The holidays are supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year. At least that’s what the song says – and the movies, and shows, and magazines, and your social media feed. The result is tremendous pressure to be happy, to enjoy time with your family, to find the perfect gifts, and create a magical experience for your children.

The gap between...

Adult Children of Alcoholics

Learn to Reparent Yourself


Are you self-critical and overly harsh with yourself?

Or are you too permissive with yourself – not setting limits and allowing yourself to do things that are unhealthy or unsafe?

Do you ignore your feelings, have trouble expressing your needs or regulating your emotions?

Is it hard to treat yourself with love and compassion?

If so, learning how to reparent yourself can help.
What is reparenting?
Reparenting is giving your adult self what you didn’t get from your...


Why It’s So Important to Validate Yourself and How to Start

It feels good to be praised, to have your feelings affirmed, to be told you did a good job, and to be appreciated.

It’s normal to want validation from others – your parents, spouse, boss, friends -- but some of us seek external validation to an unhealthy level. We rely on others to make us feel good. We doubt our abilities if we’re not explicitly told we’re doing well. We obsessively check our...