How Losing Weight Made Me Feel Fatter

Have you ever stepped on the scale, looked down in disgust and decided it was going to be a bad day? I have definitely fallen prey to not feeling thin enough, pretty enough, cute enough, tall enough, sexy enough. If you can you relate, this article is for you. Please keep reading.

It's hard not to make our jean size represent our self-worth. Our weight really shouldn't dictate our happiness level. And yet,...


No More Excuses: Self-Care Matters


I'm really tired of friends and clients who won't make time for themselves. You are important! And if you aren't making time for yourself you are either stressed out or on your way there.

Self-care, as therapists like to call it, is something you do just for you. It's reading a great novel, scrapbooking, buying yourself flowers, a walk with a friend. It's really whatever refreshes and energizes you.

What excuses are...


Signs You Are an Overthinker

Overthinking is common among anxious, perfectionists. It is obsessive thinking or ruminating. I recently wrote an article about dealing with my own overthinking tendencies while remodeling my kitchen.

People who overthink feel like they can't turn off their brains. They are constantly questioning, second guessing, evaluating. So much so that they create "analysis paralysis", or the inability to make decisions.


It’s National Do Something Nice Day


October 5th is National Do Something Nice Day. A day dedicated to doing something nice is a fantastic idea!

Did you know that doing good deeds can actually improve your health? Dr. Stephen Post of the Institute for Unlimited Love revealed that kindness and volunteering increases longevity.  Other research has shown the performing acts of kindness increases levels of happiness.

Today your...


Is Success Making you Happy?


Conventional wisdom is that success will lead to happiness. On the surface, it makes perfect sense. If I work hard and achieve my goals, I will be proud of myself and rewarded by the rest of the world.

The research just doesn't support this idea. I loved Shawn Achor's book The Happiness Advantage and popular Ted Talk about happiness at work.

Success doesn't necessarily create happiness. Have...


What’s Wrong with being a Perfectionist?

It seems like everyone is hating on perfectionism. Many of us grew up thinking perfectionism was a good thing. Perhaps your parents drilled it into you. Or maybe you came to the conclusion yourself that success and winning are the ultimate measures of your worth. It seems the tides have changed and we’re losing our love affair with perfection.


Welcome to Happily Imperfect

Perfectionism -- the need to get and do everything just right -- can be a very disabling, difficult behavior to overcome. The perfectionist often overthinks the things he or she cares most about, to the point of indecision. Every decision is revisited and the accompanying self-criticism can be withering.

What can a perfectionist do to help alleviate some of this stress and anxiety? How can they overcome their perfectionism, or at least...