How to Relax and Enjoy Some Down Time

A lot of Americans get time off from work during the holidays. If you're working customer service or in another industry where this is your busy season, maybe you can tuck these ideas away for when you do get a break.

However, time off doesn't automatically result in rest and relaxation for many perfectionists and Type A personalities.
It's hard for some people to relax. Does this sound like you?

routinely work long hours
rarely sit down...


6 Ways for Perfectionists to Have a Happily Imperfect Holiday

We all know that the holidays can be joyful, but also stressful. Perfectionists can get caught up in the to-do lists, the decisions, and the planning. We may overthink all the details from the party menu to buying the perfect gift for everyone on our list. As people-pleasers, we are focused on creating the perfect holiday for our loved ones. We have high expectations of ourselves and others....


How to Cope with Loneliness and Grief this Holiday Season

This holiday season many of us will experience loneliness and loss. We usually associate grief with death, but we grieve a lot of other losses as well.

Some of the reasons people feel alone during the holidays include:

a break-up or divorce
moved to a new community
estranged from or not talking to family
don't feel connected to or accepted by the people you are with
loved one is not...


What Causes Perfectionism?

The root of perfectionism is believing your self-worth is based on your achievements
Perfectionism is often present when some combination of these factors exist:

Rigid, high parental expectations
Highly critical, shaming, or abusive parents
Excessive praise for your achievements
Low self-esteem or feeling inadequate
Believing your self-worth is determined by your achievements
Black-and-white thinking
Efforts to feel in control
Cultural expectations


The 6 Best Tips To Deal With Criticism

Nobody likes criticism, but some of us are particularly sensitive to it.
Do you take it personally if your boss tells you to be quiet during a meeting? Does it ruin your day when someone gives you a judgmental glare when your child throws a tantrum? Do you feel like a failure when a client rejects your proposal?

For perfectionists, criticism feels like your flaws are being exposed. You work so hard to conceal them,...


Sharon’s Favorite Inspirational Quotes About Perfectionism

Over the years, I have definitely worked at becoming less of a perfectionist. As I've mentioned previously, perfectionism can actually hold us back from taking chances, trying new things, and completing things. Perfectionism also tends to fuel criticism towards ourselves and others. And when we're focused on achievement and outward appearances, perfectionism can prevent us from being our true, authentic selves.

This week I gathered up my favorite quotes about perfectionism for you....


Expert Advice on How to Practice Gratitude All Year Long

This is the season of gratitude. Thanksgiving is a recognition and celebration of our blessings, but you will find tremendous benefit in practicing gratitude all year long. I'll admit, gratitude isn't always easy. Sometimes our problems, daily struggles, worries, and imperfections cause us to lose sight of the good in our lives. Gratitude shifts the focus from problems to positives. It doesn't mean our problems go away, but it helps to put...


7 Ways to Practice Gratitude When You’re Feeling Depressed

Are you feeling down and not particularly grateful this Thanksgiving?
Well, you're not the only one who can't muster that grateful feeling. Depression, sadness, grief, and loneliness can make it difficult to do much of anything at times. When you're depressed, you tend to focus on the negatives.

Perhaps you're out of work or dreading seeing your high-conflict family. Or...


You’re Not an Insecure, Wishy-Washy Failure

I went to see the new Peanuts Movie last weekend with my nine year-old. Honestly, I wan't that excited about seeing it, but was pleasantly surprised that it was sweet, funny, and full of plenty of references to the original comic strip and TV specials.

Note: This post may contain spoilers for The Peanuts Movie (not that there is much of a plot!).
Do you feel like Charlie Brown?
Charlie Brown and the rest...