9 Tips to Help You Stop Overthinking

What is overthinking?
Do you spend countless hours rehashing your mistakes? Do you worry about what others think of you? Do you struggle to make decisions -- and get caught up in excessive researching in an effort to make the right decision?

This is overthinking -- a form of uncontrollable worry or rumination. It feels like your brain is in overdrive; you can’t turn it off. You worry and...

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8 Tips for Healing Emotional Wounds

Do you ever wonder if healing from emotional wounds is really possible? Can someone really heal from trauma, rejection, depression, a broken heart?

Perhaps you’ve been hurting for a long time and things don’t seem to be getting better.

Perhaps you feel stuck, like you’ve tried everything, and it hasn’t helped.

Or perhaps you feel like you’re too old or it’s too late for you...


Boundaries, Blaming, and Enabling in Codependent Relationships

When boundaries aren’t clear there’s confusion about who’s responsible for what – and this confusion leads to excessive and displaced blame.


If you're in a relationship that's riddled with blame (or you grew up in a blaming family), you know how painful this experience is -- and how blame destroys relationships.

However, you may not know that displaced blame is the result of weak or confused boundaries.
What are...


Say Good Riddance to “Good Girl Syndrome”

Is "good girl syndrome" holding you back?

Be a good girl.
Do as your told.
Don’t talk back.
Wait your turn.
Don’t make trouble.
Smile and look happy.
Don’t make your father angry.
Where are your manners?
Just sit here and be quiet.

How many times have you been told to be “good girl” or “good boy”? From an early age, the expectations were clear – you were to follow the rules,...

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Healing from Emotional Abandonment, Shame, and Unworthiness

Experiencing emotional abandonment in childhood can make us feel anxious, distrustful, ashamed, and inadequate – and these feelings often follow us into adulthood, making it difficult to form healthy, trusting relationships.
What is emotional abandonment?
Emotional abandonment means that someone important, someone you are counting on, isn’t there for you emotionally.

Children rely on their parents to meet their physical and emotional needs. And because young...


Less Perfection, More Self-Care


Perfectionists suck at self-care.

We're much more concerned with goals and accomplishments than with our own wellbeing. Sometimes, we're so busy that we don't even realize that our drive to please people, avoid criticism, and prove we're "good enough" is destroying our mental and physical health.
Are You a Perfectionist?
Perfectionists have impossibly high standards for themselves – and sometimes for others, too. We expect ourselves to excel...

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4 Strategies to Cope with the Pain of Rejection

Rejection hurts.

We’ve all experienced the pain of rejection – perhaps a job you didn’t get, being ghosted by a friend, or not being invited to a social event -- and then seeing your friends post about it on social media.
What is rejection?
We feel rejected when we’re not included, accepted, or approved of. Rejection involves the loss of something we had or wanted. And rejection, like abandonment, leaves...


7 Ways to Avoid Codependency in Your Relationships

Do you repeatedly get into relationships with people who are troubled or who aren’t emotionally available? Do you tend to do more than your share of giving and compromising in your relationships? These can be signs of codependency and they usually lead to unfulfilling relationships that leave you hurt and angry.
What is codependency?
Codependency is a broad term and it can manifest in a variety of ways. Below...


How to Change Your All-Or-Nothing Thinking


Are you an all-or-nothing thinker? Perhaps you see yourself as a success or a failure, attractive or disgusting, smart or stupid. And you see others as with you or against you, right or wrong, thoughtful or selfish.

Seeing things as absolutes, black or white with no shades of gray in between, can leave you feeling stuck – unmotivated, unable to start new projects, pursue your goals, or...


How to Set Boundaries with Kindness

Our boundaries should reflect compassion for ourselves and others.

What are boundaries?
Boundaries create physical and emotional space between you and others. They show people how you want to be treated – what’s okay with you and what’s not.

Boundaries are essential in all relationships – with your parents, children, friends, boss, and so on. For example, you need to set a boundary with a coworker who...