Don’t Rely on Others to Validate Your Feelings

Have other people minimized, shamed, or invalidated your feelings?

Having your feelings diminished, ignored, or rejected is a painful experience for all of us – but even more so if you’re a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) or survivor of abuse or other trauma.

It’s important to have a sense of belonging and to be a part of a group -- a family or community.  And part of belonging...


The Cure for Feeling Overwhelmed

Jill feels overwhelmed.
Jill has been working 12-hour days all week. She’s barely seen her son, let alone spent any quality time with him, which leaves her feeling guilty. Her 11-year-old is nagging her to have three friends over to watch a movie on Friday night, but Jill is exhausted. It’s Mother’s Day weekend and she still hasn’t gotten downtown to buy her mom her favorite...


Moms, Be Kinder to Yourselves

Motherhood is a blessing. It was a long and difficult journey for me to become a mother and I’m so grateful for the opportunity to mother my three not-so-little-ones.

But being a mother is hard. Really hard. And we make it harder by setting impossibly high standards for ourselves.

In May we celebrate Mother’s Day in the United States. May is also Mental Health Awareness...


Say Goodbye to Perfectionism: 12 Ways to Stop Being So Hard on Yourself

Do you have unrealistically high expectations?

Do you expect perfection from yourself and others?

Are you frequently disappointed that things don’t go as planned?

Are you exceptionally hard on yourself?

Do you feel like no matter what you do, it’s never good enough?

Perfectionists set impossibly high standards for themselves (and others), which leads to frustration, disappointment, and exhaustion. The bottom line is that perfectionism is hugely stressful and...


Coping with Codependent Guilt

Guilt is the feeling that you’ve done something wrong.
Appropriate vs. inappropriate guilt
Sometimes guilt is appropriate. When you’ve truly done something wrong, you should feel bad about it. In such situations, feeling bad can motivate you...