What Causes Perfectionism?

The root of perfectionism is believing your self-worth is based on your achievements
Perfectionism is often present when some combination of these factors exist:

Rigid, high parental expectations
Highly critical, shaming, or abusive parents
Excessive praise for your achievements
Low self-esteem or feeling inadequate
Believing your self-worth is determined by your achievements
Black-and-white thinking
Efforts to feel in control
Cultural expectations


The 6 Best Tips To Deal With Criticism

Nobody likes criticism, but some of us are particularly sensitive to it.
Do you take it personally if your boss tells you to be quiet during a meeting? Does it ruin your day when someone gives you a judgmental glare when your child throws a tantrum? Do you feel like a failure when a client rejects your proposal?

For perfectionists, criticism feels like your flaws are being exposed. You work so hard to conceal them,...


Sharon’s Favorite Inspirational Quotes About Perfectionism

Over the years, I have definitely worked at becoming less of a perfectionist. As I've mentioned previously, perfectionism can actually hold us back from taking chances, trying new things, and completing things. Perfectionism also tends to fuel criticism towards ourselves and others. And when we're focused on achievement and outward appearances, perfectionism can prevent us from being our true, authentic selves.

This week I gathered up my favorite quotes about perfectionism for you....


Expert Advice on How to Practice Gratitude All Year Long

This is the season of gratitude. Thanksgiving is a recognition and celebration of our blessings, but you will find tremendous benefit in practicing gratitude all year long. I'll admit, gratitude isn't always easy. Sometimes our problems, daily struggles, worries, and imperfections cause us to lose sight of the good in our lives. Gratitude shifts the focus from problems to positives. It doesn't mean our problems go away, but it helps to put...


7 Ways to Practice Gratitude When You’re Feeling Depressed

Are you feeling down and not particularly grateful this Thanksgiving?
Well, you're not the only one who can't muster that grateful feeling. Depression, sadness, grief, and loneliness can make it difficult to do much of anything at times. When you're depressed, you tend to focus on the negatives.

Perhaps you're out of work or dreading seeing your high-conflict family. Or...


You’re Not an Insecure, Wishy-Washy Failure

I went to see the new Peanuts Movie last weekend with my nine year-old. Honestly, I wan't that excited about seeing it, but was pleasantly surprised that it was sweet, funny, and full of plenty of references to the original comic strip and TV specials.

Note: This post may contain spoilers for The Peanuts Movie (not that there is much of a plot!).
Do you feel like Charlie Brown?
Charlie Brown and the rest...


The 5 Real Reasons You Procrastinate

It seems most Americans struggle with procrastination at least occasionally. A simple google search will yield many promising solutions, and yet we still seem to be wasting time and regretting it.
Why do we procrastinate?

You don’t like the activity or task. If you perceive something as unpleasant, boring, time consuming or difficult, it makes sense that you...


6 Big Problems with People-Pleasing and How to Fix Them

Kyle is a classic people-pleaser. He's been dating Lucy for four years and hopes to marry her. From the beginning, Lucy has been clear that she wants Kyle to attend church with her and finish college.  Kyle isn't particularly interested in church and isn't sure he even believes in God, but be attends every week. He flunked out of college in his freshman year and knows he doesn't want to go back. Instead of telling Lucy,...