How and Why to Detach with Love

What is detaching with love?
Detaching (or detaching with love) is a core component of codependency recovery. If you often feel worried about a loved one, disappointed or upset by their choices, or like your emotions revolve around whether they’re “doing well” or not, then detaching can help you.

According to the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation, “detachment with love means caring enough about others to allow them to learn from their mistakes.”

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27 Signs that You’re Recovering from Codependency


Recovering from codependency is a process -- often a long and challenging one.

You may find yourself wondering if you’re making progress. You may feel discouraged at times. And you may even feel like you’re sliding back into old patterns. These are all normal thoughts and concerns!

When you’ve been stuck in codependent thoughts and behaviors for a long time, it can be hard to know what recovery looks like. So,...


Boundary Issues During the Coronavirus Pandemic

For many of us, the coronavirus pandemic is challenging our boundaries in new ways and requires us to be more assertive about our needs. So, in this article, I’ll highlight a couple of these “coronavirus boundary issues” and give you some ideas for setting the boundaries that will help you stay healthy and feel safe and fulfilled during the pandemic.
Boundaries for handling the end of stay-at-home...


How People-Pleasers Can Stop Apologizing for Everything

Do you “over-apologize” or know someone who does?

Over-apologizing refers to saying “I’m sorry” when you don’t need to. This could be when you haven’t done anything wrong or you’re taking responsibility for someone else’s mistake or a problem that you didn’t cause or couldn't control.

Here are a few examples of over-apologizing.

The waiter brings you the wrong order and you say, “I’m sorry but this isn’t what I ordered.”
You approach the...


Guest Post: Using Self-Compassion to Reduce Anxiety

Using Self-Compassion to Reduce Anxiety

I’ve always had a doubting, critical voice. In the past, it showed up around my parenting skills, my relationships, my work -- and my everyday life. It wasn’t until I went back to school for my master's degree in counseling when I was in my 50’s, that I found a path to heal that critical voice.

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How to Set Boundaries with Toxic People

It isn’t easy to set boundaries with toxic people, but it’s something we can all learn to do and when we do, it’s empowering.

Boundaries are a way to take care of ourselves. When we set boundaries, we’re less angry and resentful because our needs are getting met. Boundaries make our expectations clear, so others know what to expect from us and how we want to be treated. Boundaries are...


Practicing Self-Love (and Journal Prompts to Help)


How do you feel about yourself? Do you love yourself? Do you accept yourself – including your flaws and mistakes?
What is self-love?
Loving and accepting yourself can be hard. Most of us weren’t encouraged to love ourselves or taught that it’s important. In fact, many of us were cautioned about being conceded or narcissistic. But self-love doesn’t lead to feelings of superiority. Self-love is a healthy appreciation and acceptance of...


Guest Post: Managing Criticism as a Sensitive Person

Receiving criticism can feel like the end of the world for Highly Sensitive People who feel everything so deeply, see meaning in every interaction and find it painful to disappoint others. Criticism often feels edgy because we assume it confirms our worst fears that say we’re not enough as we are or not doing enough.  In...