3 thoughts on “Healing from Emotional Abandonment, Shame, and Unworthiness

  • March 3, 2019 at 9:48 am

    This article is a mirror image of my life right now and I can see it moving into the next generation right before my eyes. As I grew up emotionally abandoned and struggle still I learned more than anything what not to do as a parent. Raising two daughters I made every effort within my power despite my brokenness to make sure my girls weren’t or never felt abandoned physically or emotionally. While I may have had some trial and error along the way because I never dealt with my own personal trauma. My children lived a much healthier, privileged life with a participating hands on single parent, me. Today my oldest is 35 with two children a daughter 13 and a son 8 and my youngest daughter is 29 with no children. Both have adult issues on two totally different levels and I struggle with blame. As much as I tried and feel I broke the cycle, it appears the abandonment may have skipped a generation but I see my daughter has picked up the baton and continuing the vicious cycle. It breaks my heart to watch and she and I cannot not hold a conversation without it escalating into an argument . I just pray and try not to intrude in her adult life meanwhile I see my grandchildren have all the material things any child could ask for and lack all other necessities especially emotionally.

    My youngest daughter lives at home as a result of having a break first year in college and was diagnosed with schizophrenia. She was a stellar student from pre-k and ran circles around her sister academically. No behavioral issues, either of them actually but you never saw this coming because she was such a promising student, Carnegie Mellon, U Penn, Fordham and few others accepted. She ended up with a full scholarship in our state which I believe it was God’s plan although she was destined for Carnegie Mellon and ended up #6 on a waiting list. The trauma that I believe brought her illness out, a few years earlier I the loss my only sibling who was my brother that was murdered at the age of 32. He was uncle, the male figure in her life especially since she never had a father figure as did her sister.

    Life hasn’t been easy.

  • March 11, 2019 at 11:42 pm

    Very helpful, like a laser guided address to the very real problem. +++++

  • March 25, 2019 at 12:30 pm

    I think you’re forgetting an important element how about the damage you do to the adults slandering your name to that child the siblings of that child I think you need to do a little bit more research before you publish something like this but that again you can’t be part of the solution when you are part of the problem just remember what you give is what you get karma when you go out and her children and Adult siblings for money Karma will find her way back to you


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