4 thoughts on “11 Relationship Red Flags and Why We Ignore Them

  • November 9, 2018 at 4:32 pm

    Maybe a blog or video about teasing – a definition of what is acceptable as affectionate teasing and what is hidden abuse?
    The red flags I missed were my ex making derogatory comments but in a manner so charming and warm that, although the comments always stung, it was difficult to see them as anything other than affectionate teasing or banter. Both my ex and well-intentioned friends told me not to worry about the comments, and stop being so sensitive.
    In hindsight, the comments were rather cruel, but at the time they were so coated either in charm and wit, or justified as constructive criticism, that I found it confusing to know where to stand my ground.

    • November 9, 2018 at 4:47 pm

      Hi Alison,
      Thanks for sharing your experience and insights here. As a sensitive person myself, I know how invalidating it so for people to say you’re too sensitive. Your feelings matter and I’m sorry others tried to diminish your pain or blame it on your sensitivity. We all need to remember that if something is hurtful to us, it’s valid!
      all my best,

  • November 12, 2018 at 5:58 pm

    You do a wonderful service to us all providing your materials here. I was a survivor of abuse back in 1990 when it was not a recognized issue. I was shamed and blamed. I went on with my life but there was always this nagging thought of how did this happen to me? Many years later I started to read and educate myself and I am so grateful for those people like yourself that have the tools to help others see their way into the light of healing. You are truly a Godsend. If you ever want to take a vacation my Cinderella’s Castle Scottsdale is a gift visit for you. I love all you do to help others be safe in the dating world and recover from pain they might have been hiding. You provide us with knowledge to keep us safe from ever falling victim again to emotionally unhealthy men. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all you do and the time it takes for you to do it. May you be a success and reap all the rewards you deserve.


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