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Perfectionist

Reflective Questions to Help You Quiet Your Inner Perfectionist


Your "inner perfectionist" tells you that you're not good enough. It pushes you to achieve more, work harder, and prove your worth. It tells you that rest is lazy and hobbies are a waste of time. Perfectionism tells you that mistakes are catastrophic and if people see your flaws, they'll reject or criticize you.

So, how do we get rid of this unhelpful perfectionist thinking?
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codependency

Positive Self-Talk for Codependents


 
Why your self-talk matters
We all talk to ourselves constantly (either out loud or silently in our heads). These thoughts are called self-talk. We’re not conscious of most of our self-talk, but occasionally, you probably hear yourself saying things like I’m such an idiot or I can’t believe I did that.

Often, we need to slow down in order to tune into our self-talk. As you go through your day, try to pay attention...


dysfunctional family

4 Parenting Styles That Contribute to Perfectionism


Are you a perfectionist – someone with impossibly high standards, who wants to please others, and is afraid of not measuring up? Sometimes, we mistakenly believe that perfectionism is the same as striving for excellence, but in most cases, it doesn’t actually motivate us or help us accomplish more. Instead, it leads to self-criticism, stress, health and mental health problems, and the belief that self-worth and love have to be earned.
Why do some people...


self-acceptance

What is Self-Love and Why Is It So Important?

What is self-love?
There’s a lot of talk these days about self-love. It sounds great, but what does it actually mean? How do we love ourselves – and why does it matter?

Self-love means that you accept yourself fully, treat yourself with kindness and respect, and nurture your growth and wellbeing.

Self-love encompasses not only how you treat yourself but also your thoughts and feelings about yourself. So, when you conceptualize...


Perfectionist

34 Affirmations for When Perfectionism Makes You Feel Inadequate


Perfectionism makes us feel inadequate
Perfectionism – the relentless pursuit of being flawless in an effort to prove our worth and avoid criticism -- adds unnecessary stress and pressure to our already demanding lives. When we strive for perfection rather than excellence, we’re never satisfied. We always feel deficient because we’re comparing ourselves to an impossible standard. We feel flawed and inadequate, so we try to prove our worth...


codependency

Finding Emotional Freedom After a Toxic Relationship


A toxic or codependent relationship can make you feel trapped, small, and deficient. It can feel like an anchor weighing you down, suffocating you.

People who grew up in dysfunctional families, with parents who lacked boundaries, abused drugs or alcohol, or suffered from mental illness, develop a set of coping skills that helped them deal with the chaos and dysfunction in their families. And although...