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My Top 10 Codependency Articles of 2019

Top Codependency Articles


At the end of every year, I like to take stock of which articles resonated with you – my readers. Below you’ll find the 10 most popular articles from my blog, Happily Imperfect, written in 2019. They include articles about boundaries, dysfunctional families, healing from trauma and feelings of unworthiness, codependent relationships, and perfectionism.

If you missed reading any of these articles earlier in the year, now is a great opportunity to see if there are some helpful takeaways for you.


Set Boundaries with Kindness

#1: How to Set Boundaries with Kindness

Many people are afraid to set boundaries because they don’t want to be mean or seen as mean, difficult or selfish. But setting boundaries isn’t inherently mean. We can learn how to set boundaries in a kind and respectful way.

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What is an Enmeshed Family

#2: The Enmeshed Family System

Enmeshment describes family relationships that lack boundaries such that roles and expectations are confused, parents are overly and inappropriately reliant on their children for support, and children are not allowed to become emotionally independent or separate from their parents. Family members are emotionally fused together in an unhealthy way.

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Healing from Trauma

#3: 8 Tips for Healing Emotional Wounds

As a therapist, I see people make remarkable recoveries, becoming healthy, happy, and more fully themselves – often in ways they never imagined. But, not everyone returns to emotional health. Some people continue to experience deep emotional pain, repeat unhealthy behaviors and relationships, and struggle with negative, thoughts. In my 20+ years as a psychotherapist and social worker, I’ve noticed some commonalities among people who heal more fully from their emotional wounds and pain and share them in the article.

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Healing from Shame and Unworthiness

#4: Healing from Emotional Abandonment, Shame, and Unworthiness

Experiencing emotional abandonment in childhood can make us feel anxious, distrustful, ashamed, and inadequate – and these feelings often follow us into adulthood, making it difficult to form healthy, trusting relationships. Learn how to start healing from these painful experiences.

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How to Avoid Codependency in your Relationships

#5: 7 Ways to Avoid Codependency in your Relationships

Do you repeatedly get into relationships with people who are troubled or who aren’t emotionally available? Do you tend to do more than your share of giving and compromising in your relationships? These can be signs of codependency and they usually lead to unfulfilling relationships that leave you hurt and angry.

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Finding Emotional Freedom after Toxic Relationship

#6: Finding Emotional Freedom After a Toxic Relationship

A toxic or codependent relationship can make you feel trapped, small, and deficient. It can feel like an anchor weighing you down, suffocating you. As you heal from emotional abuse, you’ll experience what I call emotional freedom — the freedom to be yourself and the ability to manage your own feelings rather than letting your feelings control you.

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Boundaries, Blaming, and Enabling 

#7: Boundaries, Blaming, and Enabling in Codependent Relationships

Weak or confused boundaries leads to blaming and enabling. Learn more about these dysfunctional patterns.

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Ways Perfectionists Self-Sabotage

#8: 10 Ways Perfectionists Self-Sabotage

Trying to do things perfectly often seems like a good idea, perhaps even essential to your success, but expecting perfection isn’t realistic. So, when you hold yourself to this impossibly high standard, you’re probably creating more problems than you’re solving.

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Positive Self-Talk for Codependents

#9: Positive Self-Talk for Codependents

We’re not conscious of most of our self-talk, but occasionally, you probably hear yourself saying things like I’m such an idiot or I can’t believe I did that. We all tend to have a default setting when it comes to our self-talk, but negative self-talk can be changed. As you become more aware of your codependent self-talk, you can try replacing it with a more positive statement from this article.

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Set Tips without Guilt

#10: 5 Tips for Setting Boundaries without Feeling Guilty

If you didn’t grow up with clear and consistent boundaries or expectations (this often happens in enmeshed, alcoholic, or otherwise dysfunctional families), they probably don’t come naturally to you. You may feel guilty or unjustified in asking for what you want or need. But you can untwist your negative beliefs about boundaries and learn to set them without feeling guilty. These five tips can help you get started.

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My Top 10 Codependency Articles of 2019

Sharon Martin, LCSW

Sharon Martin is a licensed psychotherapist and codependency expert practicing in San Jose, CA. She is the author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism: Evidence-Based Skills to Help You Let Go of Self-Criticism, Build Self-Esteem, and Find Balance and several ebooks including Navigating the Codependency Maze.  

To learn more, visit Sharon's website. And please sign-up for free access to her resource library HERE (worksheets, tips, meditations, and resources for healing codependency, perfectionism, anxiety and more).

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Martin, S. (2019). My Top 10 Codependency Articles of 2019. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 27, 2020, from


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