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Mindfulness: A Path to Self-Acceptance

Mindfulness: A Path to Self-Acceptance. Learn how practicing mindfulness can increase happiness and help you connect to yourself. We gain self-acceptance when we notice and accept all our thoughts and feelings and experiences.What is mindfulness?

Mindfulness is the practice of staying in the moment, of being in the here and now rather than focused on the past or the future. Many of us aren’t fully experiencing our lives because we’re spending so much time worrying about what might happen or ruminating about what’s already happened. Our busy lives keep us preoccupied and out of touch with ourselves, our surroundings, and other people.


Mindfulness isn’t something that you have to do at the yoga studio or while meditating. Mindfulness is an approach to all that we do, whether it’s eating dinner or pulling the weeds from the garden. We can practice mindfulness by slowing down and doing one thing at a time. When we use all five of our senses, we’re more apt to appreciate the little things that might otherwise go unnoticed or taken for granted. When we stay mindful we can enjoy the little things in our lives; we can appreciate the warm sunshine on our face or the crisp, clean sheets on our bed.


If mindfulness doesn’t come easily to you, don’t be concerned. Mindfulness is called a “practice” because it really does take practice. We’re used to multitasking, distracting, and over scheduling ourselves. Mindfulness is the opposite of these things. Mindfulness helps us experience our lives more fully. When we stay present-focused, we experience all aspect of things – including all aspects of ourselves.


Connect with yourself

Mindfulness helps us understand ourselves. We tend to look outside ourselves for the answers when the only way to find out who we are and what we need is to turn inward. That’s not to say that there isn’t a lot of wisdom outside of ourselves; the point is that we’re often disconnected from ourselves. We don’t know what we feel or what we need because we’re constantly numbing ourselves with food, alcohol, drugs, electronics, and pornography. These are the quick fixes we use to make ourselves feel better. They’re easy ways for us to find comfort and to distract ourselves from our problems and our difficult emotions. When we’re mindful we can find solutions to our problems because we can see the whole picture; we can open up our thinking to new ideas rather being stuck in old thought patterns.


Accept yourself

Mindfulness can help us accept ourselves because when we’re mindful, we allow all of our thoughts and feelings rather than pushing them away. We tend to turn to distracting, denying, or minimizing in an effort to cope with difficult feelings or overwhelming problems. When we push away our feelings, we’re telling ourselves that these aren’t acceptable thoughts or feelings. When we welcome them in, we affirm our ability to cope and that all of these parts of ourselves are OK.


For example, through mindfulness we can acknowledge uncomfortable feelings such jealousy or anger. We might not like these parts of ourselves, but they’re normal and once we accept them, we have the ability to work through them and change them. If we continue to push away jealousy and anger, we can’t change them; it’s only through acceptance that change is possible. Mindfulness is a choice to look at what is right in front of us. This isn’t the same as dwelling on our problems or wallowing in our sadness. It’s an honest allowance for all that we’re feeling and all that we are.


We don’t have to be perfect

When we’re mindful, we accept ourselves, our lives, and everybody else just as they are. We’re not trying to be perfect. We’re not trying to be somebody that we’re not. We’re not trying to distract ourselves from our problems. We see everything without needing to judge it as good or bad. We can allow our feelings, whatever they are. We can let down our masks and fake smiles and stop pretending to be OK when we’re really not. It doesn’t mean we’re oblivious to the past or the future, it just means that we see the benefits and choose to live fully in this moment. Our highs will be higher and our lows may be lower, but we know they’re real and we’re not trying to push them away or pretty them up and make them into something that they’re not.

When we’re mindful, we slow down, tune in and we really listen to our bodies, thoughts, and feelings; we notice every part of ourselves and let them be acceptable. We are saying, “This is who I am right now, in this moment, and I am acceptable and worthy just as I am.”






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Mindfulness: A Path to Self-Acceptance

Sharon Martin, LCSW

Sharon Martin is a licensed psychotherapist and codependency expert practicing in San Jose, CA. She is the author of The CBT Workbook for Perfectionism: Evidence-Based Skills to Help You Let Go of Self-Criticism, Build Self-Esteem, and Find Balance and several ebooks including Navigating the Codependency Maze.  

To learn more, visit Sharon's website. And please sign-up for free access to her resource library HERE (worksheets, tips, meditations, and resources for healing codependency, perfectionism, anxiety and more).

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Martin, S. (2017). Mindfulness: A Path to Self-Acceptance. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 27, 2020, from


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