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Archives for November, 2016

codependency

Know Yourself, Love Yourself, Be Yourself: 3 Keys to Recovering from Codependency

"I’m so busy being a wife, mother, daughter, and nurse that I don’t even know who I am anymore. I’m always taking care of others and trying to keep them happy. I’m not even sure what I like, believe, and value."

"I’m really self-critical. It’s hard for me to accept compliments. I dwell on my mistakes and imperfections."

"I don’t know how to show my family, my friends, or the rest of...
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Overcoming Perfectionism

How Women Can Overcome People-Pleasing and Perfectionism

Why are women susceptible to people-pleasing and perfectionism?
While people-pleasing and perfectionism aren't exclusively women's issues, women are socialized in many cultures to be caretakers, put other people's needs before their own, and be passive.

They worry about what other people think of them; they don't want to displease or be seen as "difficult" or "high maintenance." So, they say "yes" and don't make any waves.

American women continue...
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Anxiety

Holiday Stress Relief: 7 Expert Tips for a More Relaxing Holiday


 
Holidays and stress seem to go hand in hand.
Do you find yourself wondering how it can possibly be Thanksgiving already? We seem to say the same thing every November. From here until the end of the year, the days move at warp speed. We struggle with feeling like there just isn’t enough – enough time, money, patience, and sleep. It’s easy for the holidays to...
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happiness

An Easy Happiness Hack


 

Are you in need of an easy happiness hack? This time of year we can all use a few tricks to increase our happiness and lift our mood.

Humans have a tendency to dwell on the negatives - to see danger, to notice problems. These are great survival skills, but they don't really serve us very well in the modern age. For most of us, happiness requires that we take intentional action, focus on,...
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Anxiety

How to Practice Gratitude When You’re Feeling Discouraged

We need gratitude more than ever
When we’re feeling discouraged, alone, anxious, or angry, it’s hard to be grateful.

We know we’re supposed to feel grateful. It’s Thanksgiving-time after all. But you may be having a hard time tapping into gratitude right now.  Our country is in turmoil, leaving us with a heaviness that’s hard to shake. Or maybe you’re overwhelmed with personal problems. Or perhaps you’re struggling with...
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Parenting

26 Questions to Help Kids Know Themselves Better


Children grow and change rapidly, both physically and emotionally. As parents, we strive to help our children understand who they are, what they believe in, and how to be independent and competent adults. We aren’t trying to raise clones of ourselves, but recognize that our children are separate and unique and we need to help them grow into their authentic selves with love and acceptance.
Why do we need...
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Boundaries

How to Set Boundaries at Work

Boundaries at work:
Boundaries are important in all relationships
Setting boundaries at work is just as important as setting boundaries in your personal relationships. Boundaries are the guidelines we use to let people know how to treat us, what to expect from us, and ultimately what’s OK and what’s not OK.

Most of us spend more than 40 hours a...
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Anxiety

Break Free: 9 Tips to Overcome Fear


Do you have a little voice in your head that says: “You're not good enough. You're going to fail. Why do you even try?”

Most of us have an internal piece of ourselves, a self-critic, that repeats and exaggerates our doubts and fears. Sometimes we let these fears rule us in an effort to protect ourselves from even more unpleasant feelings or experiences. But you don’t have to be imprisoned by your...
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codependency

When Life Doesn’t Go As Planned


I used to think I could set a course, work hard, and arrive at my destination.
I’m a planner
I like it when life goes according to plan. I like things to be dependable and consistent. I like to know what’s going to happen. In other words, I like to feel in control.

But often life doesn’t go according to plan. Your mom’s diagnosed with cancer. You have a...
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