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Archives for July, 2016

Self-criticism

How to Start Loving Yourself (Even When You Think There’s Nothing to Love)


 

We talk to ourselves all day long. We comment, critique, and chastise our every move. From the big to the small – every decision and action gets scrutinized by our inner critic. For most of us, it’s harsh. Much harsher than what we say to anyone else.

Where does this negative self talk come from? Sometimes people tell me it’s very clearly their mother’s or father’s voice internalized. Other times it’s less clear. It...
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Highly Sensitive Person

Book Review: The Highly Sensitive Person


 

People who are highly sensitive often feel different, alone, or like there’s something wrong with them. In her book The Highly Sensitive Person, Dr. Elaine Aron reassures highly sensitive people that they are in fact different, but not lacking or flawed.

Are you a highly sensitive person?


Take the quiz here or read my description here.



15-20% of the population is...
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codependency

12 Signs That You’re A People Pleaser

The need to be liked and the fear of rejection shouldn’t determine your reality
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Being kind, generous, and flexible are wonderful qualities. But sometimes we’re too accommodating, too eager to please, and too afraid of saying “no.” There is a price to be paid for being “too nice.”

Ryan is a classic people-pleaser.

He's been dating Jessie for two years and hopes to marry her. From the...
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Boundaries

How to Deal with People Who Repeatedly Violate Your Boundaries


You can’t make people respect your boundaries.
Unfortunately, people who are manipulative, narcissistic, and have a poor sense of self tend to repeatedly violate personal boundaries. One of the biggest challenges that people have with boundaries is figuring out what to do when someone repeatedly violates them. There isn’t a one-size fits all answer to the question.
First, let’s consider a few...
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happiness

Coping with the Pain and Uncertainty Around Us


 

I woke up this morning feeling heavy. My thoughts racing and yet like molasses at the same time. It was one of those mornings when I just felt like hiding under the covers. I didn‘t want to get up the face the day, face the world, face the news.

This sadness has been building all week, for the past month perhaps.

I feel overwhelmed.

I feel sad.

I feel helpless.

I...
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Assertiveness

How to Take Criticism Like a Pro


 

I was a very sensitive kid. Even a well-intentioned correction or constructive feedback would propel me into tears and a swell of self-criticism equal to or worse than the criticism of others.

I took things personally. I assumed blame when I wasn’t at fault or the expectations were unreasonable. This took a toll on my self-esteem. I felt inferior. And to make matters worse, I didn’t...
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