What’s Making Me Happier
I’m trying something new this month! I wanted to share with you a handful of things that have inspired, supported, and brought me joy during the past month. Perhaps you’ll like some of my picks. Or better yet, it may simply remind you to notice what’s making you happier right now.
App I’m loving: Mindshift.
As a therapist, I give this app two thumbs up. Mindshift is aimed at managing anxiety. I’m impressed with how comprehensive it is – providing inspirational quotes, symptom tracking, all kinds of tips for things like managing panic attacks, letting go of perfectionism, and dealing with test anxiety. And if that’s not enough, there are relaxation exercises and information about understanding anxiety and how to change your negative thoughts. If you use Mindshift regularly, I think it can be a wonderful resource in understanding and reducing anxiety. Bonus, it’s free!
What I’m reading: The Invention of Wings by Sue Monk Kidd.
My sister recommended The Invention of Wings to me last summer and I just got around to it (am I the only one who’s constantly trying to read 3 books at once?). It was a great suggestion. I love historical fiction and this is set in the early 1800’s and follows the life of a slave girl and an early abolitionist (it’s loosely based on the life of the Grimke sisters). A great story of courage, finding yourself, and overcoming.
Podcast episode: Therapy Chat Podcast Episode 33: Worthiness, Perfectionism and Self-Compassion.
Everyone who’s ever failed, felt embarrassed and ashamed will relate to Therapy Chat host Laura Reagan keeping it real in this episode. Laura reveals her own professional screw up and how she coped by using self-compassion.
Blog post: To The Parents of the Kids Who Aren’t Going to Get an Award by Sara Borgstede.
I love, love, love this post. I’ve been in rooms where the awards and accomplishments of graduates are extolled. Truly, they deserve it. But let’s remember the kids who learn differently, who have less than ideal home lives, who are creative and funny and ingenious in ways that no mainstream school or organized sports team recognizes. I’m not saying everyone needs a participation award. We need to do better at telling our kids they are more than their achievements. They are so worthy just as they are – award or not.
Article I wrote: How to Stop Being So Needy and Dependent by Sharon Martin.
Ever wish you weren’t so dependent or clingy? Do you rely on others for validation or to make you feel good about yourself. It’s impossible for someone else to meet all of your emotional needs. I wrote this article to help you understand how you can start meeting more of your own emotional needs. It’s good for you and your relationships! Hope you’ll have a read if you missed it earlier this month.
Simple Pleasure: Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt.
Who else is watching Season 2 of Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt on Netflix? It’s funny, silly, and completely over the top. I dare you not to laugh!
Feeling grateful for: Spring rain.
It doesn’t usually rain from April to October in Northern California. This May we had a couple small rain storms. So nice and very welcome since we’re still suffering from a drought.
Quote: “A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.”
I wrote a couple posts about boundaries this month, so this idea was on my mind a lot. Boundaries are necessary. They aren’t “mean” or “selfish”. Sometimes it helps to remember what happens when you don’t set and maintain boundaries.
I hope you enjoyed the first installment of What’s Making Me Happier. Please leave a comment and let me know what’s making you happier.
Martin, S. (2018). What’s Making Me Happier. Psych Central. Retrieved on March 24, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imperfect/2016/05/whats-making-me-happier/