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Archives for February, 2016

Boundaries

The People-Pleaser’s Guide to Saying No


 

Mark is in over his head. He's a high school math teacher, stays late every afternoon to give extra help, and leads his son's cub scout troop. And since no one else volunteered, he agreed to head up a fundraiser for new library books. His neighbor asked him to tutor his son in geometry. Mark was about to say yes when his wife gave him the "death stare." You know, that look...
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Overcoming Perfectionism

Understanding Perfectionism, Eating Disorders, and Body Shame


It’s hard to feel good about your body and appearance. From an early age you’re bombarded with messages about what the ideal body should look like. You learned that you should count calories (or cut out entire food groups), workout every day, color your hair, and get a bit of Botox and then you just might look like the airbrushed images in every women’s magazine.

Instead of feeling good...
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happiness

22 Ways to Love Yourself More

Before anybody else can love you, you have to love yourself.
You've heard this many times before. But what does it mean to love yourself? And how do you actually love yourself?

For various reasons, many of us find it easier to love others than to love ourselves. Sometimes we're truly quite awful to ourselves. We subject ourselves to a harsh inner critic, unhealthy relationships, toxic substances, and self-mutilation. I know how easy...
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happiness

Using Your Strengths to Get Happier


How do you see yourself? It may be hard to get a realistic picture of yourself, but you do have a choice in how you see yourself. You can choose to focus on your weakness or you can choose to focus on your strengths. When you choose to emphasize your best self, you open the door to happiness - success at work, deep connections, meaningful activities, healthy habits.

It's easy to focus on what's wrong and what...
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10 Hacks for Preventing Burnout


Jason came to see me looking for help managing his anxiety and stress. He practically lived at the high-tech start up company where he worked. He ate all his meals there, hadn't seen friends outside of work in months, and barely went home to sleep a few hours. Jason loved his job when he started a year ago, but now he couldn't stand his boss who would micromanage...
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Are You a Workaholic?


I work as a psychotherapist in Silicon Valley. It’s the hub of the high-tech world. We’ve got technology giants like Google, Facebook, and Apple. It's a center of innovation (think iPhones, Pixar movies, and high-tech start-ups) that attracts driven, creative, high-achievers. It’s the perfect breeding ground for workaholics.

You don’t have to live in Silicon Valley, of course, to be a workaholic.
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